This morning during a client session, the client shared a perfect example of how easily The Transamorous Network’s process works for getting the relationship one wants.
The process IS easy. But like my client, many trans women, and trans-attracted men, make it harder than it needs to be. They make it less fun too.
All one need do to get anything they want is tell stories about their desire and feel good about having it. Even if they don’t tell positive stories, evidence still surrounds them, telling them they’re getting what they want.
But because the person won’t acknowledge the evidence, getting what they want takes a VERY long time…or it doesn’t happen at all.
I should correct that. Every desire fulfills itself. But many people, especially trans women, compromise on what they want. They’re too impatient, tell too many contrary stories and focus on the wrong evidence. But even those girls get what they want…as everyone does…after death. For when a person dies, they return to nonphysical where everything happens in an instant.
No one need wait until death though to get what they want. I know this based on my own experience. That’s why I’m committed to serve members of the trans community ready to hear what I share. Those women (and men) are emmissaries of what’s possible.
This trans woman is an example:
But I digress…
It’s basic math
My client, let’s call her Josie, lamented during one session two weeks ago. She complained about men she was meeting and how those men expressed beliefs contrary to what she wanted. We talked a bit more before I turned the subject to something she enjoyed talking about.
After a little time there, Josie admitted feeling better. Then she doubled down on her previous feeling.
“I feel that I take two steps forward,” she said. “Then take one step back.”
What she was saying is she feels pessimistic because she sees herself going backwards. But if you look at what she actually said here, she was sharing evidence of progress. Not going backwards.
Think about it. It’s basic math.
Let’s say a person is walking forward from point A, and they take two steps forward. How far away are they from point A? Right, two steps.
Now let’s say they take one step back. How far are they away from point A? One step. That’s progress!
This is a common perception problem many humans (not just trans ones) suffer from. Josie acknowledged it in our session today.
“I have ingrained ways of looking at things that have me see negatively,” she said.
“I agree,” I said. “Meanwhile evidence surrounds you that you’re progressing.”
The evidence…
Then I reminded her about our session last week. Back then, after bemoaning progress that looks like two steps forward and one back, she happily described an encounter she had with a guy.
As she describes herself, she regularly smiles at women she doesn’t know, but never smiles or even makes eye contact with men. But last week she caught herself smiling at a guy.
That shocked and surprised her, but she also saw it (in the moment) as evidence of her progress. It so happened that in this same conversation she also talked about the “several men” she was talking to on dating sites.
So here she is producing all this evidence of guys showing her interest. And yet, she’s complaining about her lack of progress!
Then, this week, she shares even more evidence. Turns out that while walking her dog at the local dog park, she not only smiled at a guy, she struck up a whole conversation with him! As she did so, she was so clear what she was doing, she said she wanted to text me about her “progress” as she called it.
It’s easy, if you let it be
I told Josie then that she has the option at any time to turn her attention to evidence indicating progress towards what she wants. Instead, what she’s doing is indeliberately focusing on “lack of evidence”. That makes her feel shitty. Feeling shitty, Josie can’t see her progress. But the progress is there.
Focus on that progress and telling positive stories becomes easy. Then life gets easy. Then everything one wants comes easily. Including that love life where the perfect partner shows up.
But you must let it become easy. Most people fight against “easy” by being indeliberate about stories they tell. They focus on their pessimism, even when life is showing them all the evidence telling them they are getting what they want.
At The Transamorous Network I help trans women and trans-attracted men all day long learn how to turn their lives into lives where everything they want happens. It’s easy once you get the hang of it. And it’s fun.
Josie is beginning to get this. When are you going to?
