The way to that begins with the stories you're telling.
There's no shame in trans attraction until someone who is trans attracted believes their trans attraction is wrong.
"I noticed for the first time a "5 o clock shadow" on her face. Im trying not to judge but I can't help but feel a loss of attraction."
I am just too scared to meet with trans women....at the same time I feel it’s unfair for the poor cis women I’ve dated in the past...
I understand who and what transgender and trans attracted people are. I relate to them from there. They feel that, then can't help but express love for me. I'm loving them after all.