We know. It’s hard to love your love life when your love life seems absent, because you have no one to love in your life.
But that’s just the past staring you in the face.
Yes, that’s right. Your present moment that includes you NOT having a partner is the past. We can explain why that is, but it would make this post way to long. Instead, just take our world for it.
You’re creating your reality by what you put your attention on. So when you look at the past, whether you like what you see or not, you put more of what you’re looking at in the future for you to experience in future nows.
What does that mean? Put simply, when you complain about not having someone to love, you’re putting your focus on you not having someone to love. So your future moments have a very high probability of looking just like that moment in which you’re complaining.
That complaint is a story.
You have a lot of other stories going on all of which collaborate to create your now. So if you want to have a now that looks different from the ones you’ve always/already have, you have to start looking somewhere else for the love of your life. You have to stop doing what you’re doing (complaining) and start doing something different.
We suggest you start praising. Find every thing to love about your current situation. If you can do that consistently, you’ll notice some interesting things happening:
- You’ll feel better
- You’ll eventually forget about not having a lover
- That relief will open new possibilities because you won’t be focused on what you don’t want
- In the relief you feel, you’ll find yourself increasingly happy
- And if you’re paying attention, you’ll see signs of the lover you’ve been wanting coming to you.
Of course, step five there means you have to know what to look for. That’s another story. One we talk about in our Guides.
One way or another, you’re going to love your love life. We suggest you do that sooner than later. Life is much more fun that way.