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TL;DR: The author asserts a balancing effect taking place on Earth is prompting fear, insecurity and powerlessness among its human inhabitants. They therefore call on people to embrace positivity as a way of balancing forces creating chaos at this auspicious time in humanity’s unfolding. This post is simultaneously being printed here and from our Positively Focused blog because of its importance.

It’s Sunday morning, July 14. I just finished a two-hour meditation. I don’t typically meditate that long each morning.

But this morning I considered special. That’s because yesterday, someone tried to assassinate former president and 2024 presidential candidate Donald Trump. Dreams over the last few nights proved consistent with this manifestation. They’ve been quite “dense”, “detailed” and featured experiences indicating the need to soothe great upheavals or transformations.

I’m not a clairvoyant. There is something, however, about coming into the world at just the right time that my vibrational awareness builds at the same time this country goes through what it’s going through right now.

But the United States is not going through it alone. A pendulum is swinging, once again, between light forces and something else all across the globe. That’s important to know. And for people like me, it’s important we do something. Better said: it’s important we “be” something.

Let’s take a look at why and what that is we should do.

This is not new

It’s interesting that in the last week I wondered what I would write about. No clear inspiration came over these days. Feeling no inspiration, I felt no worry. I knew something would show itself.

So yesterday, I took a nap. I woke an hour later, opened YouTube to watch something entertaining and saw the news, in near-real time, of the assassination attempt. News reporters claimed this was an uncommon thing in the United States. I didn’t know if they meant a political assassination or gun violence. I figured the former.

But plenty examples exist of political assassination attempts and successes in the United States. They start with Lincoln and go all the way up to the attempt on Reagan’s life, with a smattering of others in between, including JFK’s assassination.

This is not new. Nor is it uncommon.

What’s really interesting, however, is what these violent acts point to. People are scared. People “on both sides.” It’s interesting the assassin was a paradox of political action. He was a registered republican, but donated to a democratic PAC. So it’s unclear right now what his motives were.

That’s not surprising.

Ambiguity is no surprise

It’s not surprising to me because it really doesn’t matter. From a vibrational standpoint, in order for someone to resort to gun violence, they must feel extreme powerlessness, intense fear or some other extreme negative emotion in order for them to take such violent action.

A lot of people are at that point around politics these days. Both presidential candidates are triggering such people. Many people are feeling fear and insecurity about America’s future too. Especially because one candidate openly intends to turn the country into an Authoritarian State. And he has an army of people getting ready should he be the electoral victor.

For some that IS scary. So I’m not surprised someone would act the way the shooter had. And I won’t be surprised if it happens again. Here’s why.

Rage is logical

A client with a lot of the Positively Focused practice under her belt, recently wanted to confront an ex-boyfriend at gunpoint. This guy had secretly installed cameras throughout her house when he had a sense she was going to break up with him. Those cameras captured the client having sex with her new boyfriend among other very personal situations.

This ex was and is in extreme insecurity, grief, despair and feeling powerless around the client’s decision to break up with him. His surveillance plan apparently was to try to figure out what the client would do after the fourth time she discovered him consuming porn; something he promised to stop consuming.

One of the many girlfriends he was cheating on the client with contacted the client one day after she broke up with him and told her what he’d done. The guy for some reason showed the girl footage of the client having sex with her boyfriend. The client, who has deep shame and insecurity herself around her body, sex and privacy, reacted as anyone feeling this way might: she wanted to demand that he give up the recordings…at gunpoint.

Powerlessness is a very dangerous vibration. No one likes feeling bad and powerlessness is the epitome of that. Everyone will try to get out of such feelings. And usually, that means taking extreme action. Even violence.

Believe it or not, rage feels better than powerlessness. Which is why those who feel powerless or extremely insecure, often become violent. The action, such as trying to kill a presidential hopeful, may seem irrational to those not feeling what the killer is feeling. But for the killer, it’s a very logical next step.

A balance in the force?

Whether you’re a head of state feeling powerless over the loss of your country’s stature (Putin), a guy feeling powerless to avert the loss of a girlfriend, or a kid feeling powerless over…whatever…resorting to violence feels better than feeling powerless. And that’s why we’re seeing so much of it in the world.

Authoritarianism is on the rise planet-wide. Putin now has his version of NATO, with China and North Korea agreeing to join forces with Putin if Russia is attacked. France just narrowly averted a right-wing takeover of its government. Germany recently foiled a planned coup lead by right wingers.

The United States is in the throws of its own authoritarian roots bearing themselves. That’s right, this isn’t new. Authoritarians have been trying to turn the US into a fascist state for a long time.

Project 2025, therefore, isn’t new. It’s just the newest iteration.

The good news is, this very strong global trend where authoritarians are trying to wrest control over societies makes this a very interesting time to be alive. That causes beings from nonphysical to want to be here, both to experience it, and also to shape it.

Balance is the order of the day in All That Is. So we can expect these extreme events foretell a balancing that is about to occur. One that is occurring.

A positive appeal

I wrote years ago for another blog I own that things are going to get worse before they get better. I wasn’t kidding. It’s happening at the global level. It’s happening at the individual level, for some. And it’s happening everywhere in between.

Meanwhile a lot of good is happening too. Mexico just elected its first Woman president who happens to be a liberal. The UK’s liberal party just wrested power from a decades-long conservative rule. I think we’re going to see the paradox that is physical reality bring more such surprises. The key is for all of us to be as positive as we can as all this unfolds.

It’s important people sensitive to vibration cultivate a high state of fast moving, positive frequencies. This means being as positive as possible about what’s happening. Abraham nails it when they say one person tuned in is more powerful than millions who are not. And more than one person tuned in represents an unstoppable force.

The world is unfolding. How that happens, what it looks like, matters to us all. Some came for the chaos. Others came to balance that. More than ever, the world needs the balancers. If you’re reading this, you may be one of those people.

Everything is always working out. Even when it looks like it’s not. Be the change you want to see; speak less, be more. Focus on the outcome you desire, the ones that make you feel good. What you resist, persists. These statements aren’t just pablum, they’re fact. Now is the time and the balance needs you.

I usually write posts about extraordinary results my Transamorous Network clients get. Today, I’m writing about my results. They’re pretty freaking cool. And they show how easy it is to meet our matches, whether we’re trans or trans-attracted.

That’s right, much like Hair Club For Men founder Sy Sperling, I’m not only the founder of The Transamorous Network, I’m also a client. In other words, I practice what I preach. The same things I tell clients to do in their lives, I do in mine.

Sometimes someone will ask me “if your approach works so well, how come you’re not in a relationship?”

The answer is complicated.

I’m in the process of my own self-discovery. That’s my priority. I am exploring my own gender expression among other things. A lot of “me” is under construction therefore. Yes, I’m 100 percent exclusive about being with a transgender woman. But I wasn’t clear what specifics I wanted in a partner yet. Because I’m not clear about me.

But then, Muriel happened (I’ve changed her name and some details to protect her privacy). That’s right. She came into my life unexpectedly. And, over time, I’ve developed a fascinating attraction to her. More on that later.

What’s important now is how this happened. I didn’t do ANY of the things others do to find their partner. I didn’t go to bars. Nor did I join a dating site. She literally came to me. That’s exactly how I promise my clients their partners will show up: with no effort on their part. I just kept telling positive stories. And then Muriel showed up.

She wasn’t the only one

I wasn’t out looking for transgender girlfriend. Still, I would regularly come across them in town. Every so often, transgender women would hit on me too. That’s because I’m open and authentic about who I am. I embrace all of me, especially my transamory. Which is why the Universe brings me trans women all the time. That tells me I have my stories right.

Over the years, several transgender women have been so bold as to call my cell. Out of the blue, I’d get a call. I love it when transgender women are bold like that. I know when they are like that, there must be something about them that resonates with who I’m being. So when that has happened, I’ve reveled in the rendezvous no matter what happens after that call.

Not every transgender woman who reaches out is my type. But instead of focusing on that, I always reveled in those who were matches. So it isn’t a surprise to me that I eventually came across someone like Muriel. Someone who is, for the moment, a perfect match to my constantly refining desire.

Chasing is the hard way guys and gals

How many of you men have tried to get a trans girl’s attention, in a bar or online, and been ignored or ghosted? I know you’ve had that experience. I’ve had it too, when I was doing what some of you do. That experience sucks. Especially when some transgender women hold preconceived notions that all of us are fetishizers out for lustful satisfaction only.

When you’re out in a bar or online somewhere, it’s not easy to weed out those kinds of transgender women from the ones you want. You want trans women who want to be with you because they appreciate who you are. That’s why I tell my clients stop doing what every other guy (or trans girl) does. Instead, do something different: let the Universe bring the girl/guy to you!

Many guys think that’s crazy talk. They think it won’t work. Even some trans girls think that way. Maybe you think that way. Not my clients though. It takes convincing at first. But in time, life shows them how easy finding love can be.

Think I’m bullshitting? How do you explain these high quality girls, both of whom reached out to me recently. Both did so on their own initiative, with me not having any idea they were out there:

These are just two of the many transgender women who have reached out to me recently. Since starting The Transamorous Network, I’ve been approached my many more, through my blog and in person. But enough of that. Now, I want to lavish thoughts about Muriel, the girl I find myself fascinatingly attracted to.

An wonderful connection

She responded to a blog post I wrote earlier this year. Muriel and I see the world similarly. So I appreciated her perspective. I sent her an admiring reply. She replied with thanks. I don’t think either one of us had romantic intentions.

But the more I read some of her posts, including those on Facebook, the more I realized Muriel was really, really smart. I don’t remember who initiated, but we became Facebook friends. From there, getting to know one another accelerated.

Now, besides being super, wicked smart, Muriel also looks great. At least I think so. I especially like that she proudly owns being a “woman with a dick”, as she puts it, which I think is the epitome of what it means to be trans. She doesn’t try to be a cis-woman. She’s proud that she’s trans. And I love that about her. I also like that she’s close to my age. And that she recognizes me as a staunch ally of transgender women, which I am, of course!

When Muriel first sent me racy pictures, I was surprised. I didn’t ask for them, but I did welcome them. Muriel responded with more, increasingly revealing photos. Along with them, we had wonderfully intimate and revealing conversations around sexuality, gender expression, what we like to do in bed and more. I love her self-assuredness. And I’m happy she trusts me.

Muriel also is married and has a child. Her relationship is open, though, which is perfect for me because at the moment, I prefer focusing on my self development. Still, I look forward to seeing Muriel in person. In the meantime, I love who she is. And I enjoy time with her.

The Transamorous Network approach works

My life shows me in so many ways that what I show my clients works. I’m producing the same results they get on the subject of relationship. But that’s not all. I also see other parts of my life proving this stuff I share works.

I’ve said this before: The best place to meet our match is in our daily life. Not at a bar. Not online. It’s more fun too. I always ask my clients this question early on: If you had your choice, which would you prefer: Meeting your ideal match spontaneously – doing what you love – or through an online dating site or in a bar?

Every client, transgender or trans-attracted gives the same answer: it’s just more fun meeting your match in that lovely, spontaneous way. The same way the Universe will give us everything else we want. But to have those experiences, we gotta tell the right stories so we become matches to what we want.

Then we won’t have to go out looking for our partner. She (or he, or they) will come to us. In the same way my clients experience it. And now, in the same way I have.

Want your perfect match to come to you? I’m here, ready to help.

Dear TTN,

I am a trans woman who recently found your service through an online search. I love the idea of what you are trying to accomplish. It seems like you have had a lot of success with helping individuals find each other and then find love. There is something that worries me though. With everything going on in our country right now it can be dangerous to be openly trans and looking for a partner. Not all people are as open and accepting as you. So here’s my questions: When connecting men to trans women how do you know it’s genuine? How do you know the man doesn’t have ulterior motives? Is there a vetting process? 

 I just want to be safe.

 Thank You,

  Safe-T

Hey Safe-T,

Thanks for reaching out. I appreciate your concerns. How The Transamorous Network process works is much different than the way, it seems, you’re thinking it works.

By the end of this description, I think you’ll see there is no risk at all wrt meeting someone who would pose a danger to you. It will also show why I have “a lot of success” with helping people find the love they are looking for.

I help the people I work with, both transgender women and trans-attracted/transamorous men, move through various stages of becoming a match to the person they want to meet. So none of them are ready to be “matched” with a potential partner in real life at first.

Trying to match them in person with potential partners would be very challenging because of this. They can only find and resonate with what they’re putting out (i.e. their match). And most of my clients start off as NOT being a match to who they ultimately want as partners. So trying to put together an in-person match would fail way more than it succeeds. This explains why online dating has such dismal success. People only meet people they’re a match to. And most people aren’t ready to meet that perfect person. Including clients.

So that’s the first point.

The second point supports the first. Because of what I just described above, I don’t “literally” match people with potential partners in person. That would be far too difficult. I would need a HUGE stable of potential matches. But even if I did have such a stable, the chances of such “matches” working out would be very, very slim.

What I do instead is help people on both sides of the trans-community dating dynamic change how they think about the people on the other side of the dynamic. In other words, I help the men better understand the woman they want to meet, mostly by first understanding themselves. I do the same with transgender women. In doing that, gradually, both the men and the women find themselves increasingly meeting better matches “spontaneously” or “coincidentally”. However, the approach I use doesn’t acknowledge “coincidence” in the way society generally means when using that word.

What happens is, as clients change their stories, they become better matches to the kinds of people they want to meet. As they do that, the physical world, which is a reflection of one’s internal, psychic or mental state, includes potential partners that are, again, increasingly better and better matches. This naturally results when one improves their internal, psychic or mental state. Because the external world is a reflection of that inner world.

This process usually takes a while, as all things usually do in physical reality. That’s mainly because it takes people a while to acknowledge stories (beliefs, thoughts, ideas) about themselves, about being trans, being trans-attracted, about relationships, about potential partners, etc. are creating their reality. They also must contend with the momentum of whatever current disempowering stories they have about these subjects, which are being reflected back to them in their now-reality and must therefore be contended with before improvement shows up.

But through the process, this improvement and progress becomes obvious. Evidence proving its working quickly piles up until it becomes undeniable. In time, then, people begin relaxing with the process instead of resisting it. Then they ease beliefs that are contrary to what they want.

As they do this, one of the pieces of evidence that shows up is, prospective partners – their quality, character, etc. – start improving. As that happens, clients relax more (give up more resistance). Eventually, physical reality MUST present the client with an ideal partner, or partners, if that’s what they want, since physical reality is a reflection of one’s internal, psychic or mental state.

This is why I have so much success with both sides of the trans-community dating dynamic. I help clients address the source from which their dating experience emerges, rather than trying to figure out whether this person or that person will be their ideal match. Their ideal match shows up automatically, once the client gets their stories to match what it is they want.

Ultimately, every date represents a perfect match. They always reflect back to us who we’re dominantly being. So if a person is meeting people they don’t like, the problem isn’t in the people they’re meeting. The person is the problem.

They’re also the solution.

So, presuming you’re still reading 🙂 you can see how the risk of meeting someone posing a danger to you would be impossible with my approach. It simply can’t happen, because the client is predisposed, mentally, psychically to not meet such people as a result of the process we use. Then physical reality only brings people who are a match to that predisposition.