Ladies: There is no way you are going to form a strong relationship foundation on a lie. Lying about who you are is not only disrespectful to any guy you might meet, it is disrespecting you.
What kind of story are you telling yourself to feel like you have to lie about who and what you are?
“No men will ever want me.” That’s just a story.
“Straight men don’t want to be with a transgender person.” That’s just a story too.
“I have to lie to get around being transgender.” so is that one.
Ok, so you consider yourself a Woman. Great. But you also have a unique path to being that which you are. And some men aren’t ok with it. That’s not a big deal! There are many who are!
But if you’re asking a guy to accept you as a person, but you’re not willing to share all that you are as the person you are, so the guy can make a fully-informed choice about being with you, then what’s the point?
There is no reason you have to lie about who and what you are in order to have what you want. Be yourself and be proud of that. Be patient and before you know it, in your integrity, you will find what you’re wanting. But you’ll never find it so long as you’re telling yourself that you need to lie about what and who you are.
This story is sad. But not because of what happened to her. It’s sad because of what she is doing to herself.