Some transgender people – it’s never trans-attracted men – get triggered by how I support the transgender community. They don’t realize their getting triggered has nothing to do with me or what I do. It’s all about their insecurity, triggered by stories they’re telling.
I often respond by telling such people my clients and the community in general benefit hugely from what I offer, evidenced by many people offering thanks, appreciation and examples of how it helps them. Nearly all my clients stick with me because what they get in transformed lives far exceeds how much it costs.
This is why I guarantee the results I promise.
My most recent client offers a great example. He’s a trans-attracted man. After his very first session, he created for himself exactly what I offer and guarantee everyone gets, trans or trans-attracted. Here’s what he texted me:
My newest client gets an extraordinary life experience after only one session.
Everyone gets similar results, although details look different. That’s only because all physical reality is 100 percent subjective. It’s unique to the perceiver. No one shares their experience with another. Which is why so much disagreement happens. Everyone thinks other people are having the same experience they are.
The trans experience and the trans-attraction experience are human experiences. Both are wholesome and good. I show folks how to get to that wholesome goodness story-wise. Then, in time, their world must reflect that back to them. Including bringing them everything they want.
I don’t care when some transgender women hate on me after reading a Transamorous Network post. They literally don’t know what they’re talking about.
But trolls gonna hate
Sometimes a transgender woman will read me saying transgender women own the lives they create, then tell me I’m victim blaming. But they don’t understand what my clients do. There are no victims.
But if a person believes there are…they make themselves a victim as much as those they pity as victims.
I don’t care when some transgender women hate on me after reading a Transamorous Network post. They literally don’t know what they’re talking about.
But my clients do. That’s why they rave about results, while sticking around. They get a taste of their power. Then they want more.
I know what I offer helps transgender people and those who love them. I know because such people tell me so. That’s why I do what I do. I came here for this.
So when a client raves about results they produce, I focus on that. Those who get negatively triggered, who’ve never even tried to understand what I offer, let alone put it into practice, get the cold shoulder.
I tell them to take their triggered attitudes elsewhere. Find things to read they agree with. Leave me alone.
That way I have more time to serve those ready to live their lives as the creators they came to be.
We say stories create reality. And when you get the right stories in place, around love and the partner you want, your ideal partner will show up…with no effort on your part. This is the The Transamorous Network guarantee.
Case in point: a former client texted us with great news. He came to us years ago, but didn’t stick around because he felt, as some trans-attracted men do, that his trans-attraction wasn’t that big a priority.
We don’t know what happened between then and now. Presumably he pursued his music interests. So his text was a surprise…but also not a surprise.
It wasn’t a surprise because clients these days all report remarkable things happening in their lives. Only they’re not remarkable from a Transamorous Network perspective. They’re only remarkable when seen from and compared to an ordinary life. A life where the liver doesn’t understand they create their reality though stories they tell.
But those who do know they create their reality, become powerful creators. Like this Transamorous Network client, who also happens to be trans:
Your reality springs from stories you tell. So tell better stories and watch life get way better. Like this trans woman’s experience shows.
Dating sucks
But in ordinary lives, dating sucks. It sucks, as we’ve talked about here, because stories people tell while dating always create realities consistent with them. Which is why the majority of dating people, including those dating online, fail in their objective. Or they compromise. Compromise is what results in divorce.
Our former client texted us because what happened didn’t happen while he was dating. In fact, he wasn’t even looking for a girlfriend, which is when we suggest the best dating results will happen.
The trans woman above isn’t the only client feeling this way. Other trans woman clients are too. Like this one:
Another trans woman client expresses her joy emanating from her client session.
And this trans woman, who, after only two sessions rediscovered how powerful she really is:
Another trans woman finds power in her choices and in her desire to have it all.
That’s why the week in which the text came wasn’t a surprise. Instead, it was icing on an already well made cake.
It’s best when it happens out of the blue…or rather…out of the obliviousness.
Out of the obliviousness
When something happens “out of the blue” another way of saying that is “out of not being aware of how the Universe works.” The Universe always gives you more of what you’re asking for. This is why more trans women are finding their power through what we offer at The Transamorous Network.
We tell the story that trans women are powerful beings. Then, such women show up in our experience.
You ask for what you want through stories you tell about what you’re looking at. So it’s important to ask only for what you want, meaning, look at only what you want.
“Looking at” doesn’t only happen with your eyeballs though. In fact, it rarely ever happens that way because eyeballs are just projectors. They have no creative power. But your thoughts (stories) do. So how you think and what you think about determines what the universe is and is going to send you.
When something happens “out of the blue” the person it happens to has become the final part of an already assembled event in time and space they didn’t know was assembling. That assembled event in time and space can be what the person wants, or doesn’t want.
Which it is, depends on what kind of momentum the person created prior to the event taking shape in physical reality. That explains why so many trans women are killed in the US and elsewhere. These things seem to happen “out of the blue”. But what’s really happening is the trans woman becomes the final component in the unfolding event she created showing her where she predominantly focuses her attention.
You’re blaming the victim
I know that’s hard to hear. Insecure people will say “Perry, you’re blaming the victim for their death.” The problem with that statement is, there is no blame because there is no victim. Nothing went wrong because someone gets killed. Dying happens to everything and everyone.
Circumstances around how that happens though needn’t be tragic. But they will be when a person holds onto consistently negative-emotion-producing thoughts and beliefs.
A being I greatly respect once said “you can’t have a happy ending to an unhappy story.”
Unless a person moves from “oblivious” and into “knowing”, which is what we help people with all day every day at The Transamorous Network, that person rides a downward path. The future will bring more of what they’re creating. No exceptions.
That’s why the guy who texted us got what he got. He found himself matching what he wanted: having an attractive trans woman connect with him with no effort.
At The Transamorous Network we don’t support people finding their match through online dating sites. Again, we explain why here. The texter said he met this trans woman online, but notice what happened back when they did:
What happened?
Why didn’t they follow through, the way they are now, back then?
Because back then, both had stories standing between what they wanted and who they were at the time. This is obvious reading the text. Neither felt “connection”. “Connection” is an emotional reaction to stories that match.
No one ever stands still. One’s stories constantly change. It could be that these two people coming together represent a stepping-stone process, where this connection offers both people growth potential. Growth potential that will prepare both parties for the next relationship on the way.
In other words, it could be the trans woman might be compromising out of her fear of being alone, or results she’s gotten from stories she’s telling. This happens a lot in relationships.
The match up could also represent a match that carries on for a while. Again, we don’t know where the guy was story-wise when the trans woman reached [back] out. But no matter where either party stands, the rendezvous obviously created and continues creating enthusiasm and eagerness for the guy. Likely for the girl too.
Those are great signs. What happens next depends on each party’s willingness to see the best in the other party.
It’s exciting seeing these kinds of results happen. Easy, effortless match-making. Just the way we promise.
Are you finding finding your ideal partner fun? If not, we can help make fun…and easy.
Some people scoff at the idea that people create their life through stories they tell about life. Transamorous Network clients don’t scoff though. Because in a very short time, in some cases immediately, clients discover stories do, indeed create reality.
Once they see evidence, clients want results consistent with what they want. They start small usually. While going after little things in life – feeling better about being single, for example – other things happen too. These other things surprise and delight the client. No wonder then that clients get more hopeful about life.
Maybe, just maybe, they start thinking, life is on their side. Maybe life can be fun, easy and filled with self-fulfilling desires. Perhaps seeing that partner they want come to them isn’t as far fetched as they thought, they think.
In that hopefulness, clients ease into lives they meant for themselves. Lives filled with joy and optimism, hopefulness and eager anticipation.
There, they realize they deserve what they want. And the Universe agrees, then helps them get everything they want and more.
In time, and the length is different for each client, clients come to sessions to revel in the joy, not fix problems. From there, sessions get really fun.
It’s not counseling or therapy
Since no upper limit exists about what someone can get or how good they feel, sessions always contain moments where greater fine tuning happens. But most sessions involve sharing stories – real life examples – where desires just happen in client’s lives. They marvel, surprised that life gets better and better and better.
Then it’s no wonder clients keep coming back. Why wouldn’t they?
Where else in their lives do they find unconditional acceptance and encouragement for everything they want? Does anyplace else exist in their life where people come feeling good, anticipating a wonderful hour, then leave feeling even better, having amplified their feeling good?
Where else in life can a person learn how to see their life giving them everything they want? Then return to their life and see more of that with their own two eyes?
I know the answer: hardly anywhere else.
Some people ask me if this is therapy or counseling. No, it isn’t therapy. It isn’t counseling either.
Clients don’t learn skills about getting people to treat them better. They don’t go back into their childhoods, try to unpack “traumas” or fix things “broken” about them.
They also don’t heal anything because nothing needs healing.
Life is spiritual made physical
The biggest difference between what we do and counseling and therapy is, we come from a knowing the medical and mental health spaces rarely acknowledge, let alone know exists. That knowing says, people are eternal beings here to create the world of their choosing. They enjoy access to the entire power of the Universe, because that’s what they are.
We show people how that power works, then how to leverage it to turn dreams into reality. Dreams are as real as physical matter. We show clients how to make those dreams physical. Including getting that lover they want trans, or trans-attracted. Just a few simple fundamentals makes it work. From there life is fun. Just like this client describes:
What we do works for anyone. But some won’t find it fits their world view. It doesn’t fit because their world view makes it that way. We know a lot of people live life from such world views.
That’s why for those people, including those who are trans or trans-attracted, fail to find love, satisfaction and freedom from self-loathing, shame, insecurity and loneliness. It’s not the world that’s wrong. Nor is it the men they want. Or the women. it’s their world views. In other words, the thoughts they think about the world around them. The world they are creating.
Great results pop out of stories aligned with what one wants. A few basic fundamentals makes that so. Then results consistently happen so consistently, you’d wonder why you didn’t know the fundame to start.
A transgender woman responded to a recent post of ours on Medium. The story showed how complaining about negative dating experiences creates a continuous stream of more such experiences. Here’s what she wrote:
I’m a Trans woman who has had all of the negative dating experiences you describe. Magical thinking about the universe and “man” -ifesting my partner didn’t [work for me].
I don’t believe a cisgender person [apparently she was referring to me] really knows the feeling of meeting someone, having real chemistry and then having them run away after you come out to them. A hundred times. Cisgender women are often fetishized, but Transwomen are treated like an alien sex creature. You really have zero idea, and I say this in the kindest way.
I found my partner through some luck and simple diligence. I formed a strategy and kept at it until I found someone who “saw” me, not the label. The other parts of the equation are working on yourself and being happy with who you are. Men are initially visual creatures and a grounded understanding of that reality helps too.
Here’s what I find interesting about her reply. Besides thinking I’m cis, which I’m not, her response shows exactly how what she calls “magical thinking” works. But she, like so many, believes in what other clueless people taught her. She believes in “luck” and “hard work”. Both of which can work, but as the phrase “hard work” implies, it’s no fun going that route.
And though she claims she met her partner through “luck and simple diligence”, what really happened is, she told stories that created a reality wherein she matched with the person she met.
Everyone tells stories
Whether a person believes it or not, stories and nothing else, create reality. “Beliefs” is another word for “stories”. What you believe, happens.
For example, the other day, my housemate lost her keys, including her key fob for her car. She turned the place upside down looking for her keys. But she couldn’t find them.
Why couldn’t she find them?
Because she believed her keys were lost, that’s why. In other words, no matter how hard she looked for her keys, she couldn’t find them because she created a reality in which finding her keys was impossible.
About 10 days later, after spending $285 for a replacement car key fob, the keys showed up.
Where were they? Some mysterious, really secret hiding place? No. They were in a jacket pocket in her closet.
They were there…yet not there.
She “found” her keys because she no longer stood in stories creating a “lost” reality. Instead, she gave up believing she lost them. Then her broader perspective guided her to what she wanted: her keys.
I’m sure you’ve experienced this too. I have. So have several other clients. A person can’t live an experience that doesn’t line up with their beliefs. The same holds true about finding a lover.
It’s a secret hidden in plain sight: reality springs from what you think about. (Photo: Photo by Kristina Flour on Unsplash)
Man-ifestation and luck
So how did this transgender woman discover her partner through telling better stories even though she doesn’t know how that works? Let’s take a look. Here’s what she wrote:
“I found my partner through some luck and simple diligence. I formed a strategy and kept at it until I found someone who “saw” me, not the label. The other parts of the equation are working on yourself and being happy with who you are. Men are initially visual creatures and a grounded understanding of that reality helps too.”
First, I don’t know if her partner is male or female, that said, she starts by acknowledging that she doesn’t really understand how it happened. I write that because she uses the term “luck”.
Luck is a word people use when describing outcomes they don’t understand. “Luck” means “success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.”
Why “luck” seems random
So luck implies something beyond one’s control. But creating reality lies within everyone’s control. Everyone creates reality according to their beliefs or stories. Not knowing how they’re doing that doesn’t mean they create reality some other way.
Since most people don’t understand how they create reality, they think when things go well for them, they experience “good” luck. They see luck as a random event. Being random, they also believe in “bad” luck. But bad things happening happen the same way good things happen.
Both kinds of “luck” happen in line with what people believe. Most people’s beliefs contain a few stories consistent with what they want. But far more beliefs people hold revolve around unwanted subjects. Things like racism, inequality, taxes, money shortages, fears about their health or a loved one’s health, worries about being lonely, anxiety about work, negative feelings about people who don’t share their beliefs or values, etc.
No wonder people’s lives contain so much random occurrence. It looks random, but randomness happens because people don’t think thoughts consistently about what they want. Their thoughts contain a hodgepodge of random thoughts. Thus their reality looks random.
Man-ifestation and hard work
Nearly everyone thinks diligence and hard work produce results. When people see success happening with my project Copiosis, they often say “good for you, you worked hard. You deserve this.”
But I don’t work hard to make Copiosis – or anything else I want – happen. Working hard makes getting what you want hard. Which is why so many don’t get what they want – in love, and, on the way to not getting that, experience anxiety, frustration and loneliness.
Later in the paragraph we’re looking at, the writer says: I formed a strategy and kept at it until I found someone who “saw” me, not the label.” I assert what happened here was, she listened to her inner guidance as well as looked at what worked for her in the past. She saw her past successes and applied similar methods. But most important, she started telling a different story: I want someone who sees me, not the label.
A transgender woman (not the writer) telling negative stories…and getting commensurate results.
All that other stuff she did falls into the “doing” category. Doing NEVER produces results, although it looks like that. Doing or action puts a person in a certain location, time and space-wise, where an “unfolding” happens. The unfolding includes circumstances and people coming together in a timing which creates desired results. All that timing and unfolding first gets created in stories. Then associated components assemble into manifestation. Doing happen so you rendezvous with other components as the final necessary component.
Emotions are key
Think about it. Very likely, our writer’s strategy implementation left her feeling discouraged at times as she met potential partners not yet aligned with what she wanted. Which is why she complained at first about experiencing everything I wrote about. Remember?
Yet, she still believed. She told herself a story (such as “I must be diligent and persist, I know this can work” or something like that) which changed “discouragement” into some other positive emotion, such as, maybe, at the very least, “willingness”.
Feeling willing to continue on a course feels better than feeing discouraged. So the story “I know this can work” creates a reality consistent with it: at some point evidence must show up proving that story true.
So long as she kept to that story, and entertained as little contrary stories as possible, “[Finding] someone who “saw” me, not the label.” was inevitable.
Which is exactly what happened.
Even more powerful stories
The writer next amplifies exactly the same stories I write about here all day every day:
“The other parts of the equation are working on yourself and being happy with who you are.“
Essentially she says: I became the best person I could, I found my happiness.
At The Transamorous Network we assert that a person can’t find a loving, happy, positive, successful, trustworthy, friendly, responsible partner, if they, themselves are unhappy, not loving, negative, unsuccessful and irresponsible. In other words, you must become a match to what you want. Otherwise, you’ll not get what you want.
This person did that. She focused on herself, while also putting in place processes which allowed her to feel more hope, expectation and positivity about her goal. Yes, she took action, but it sounds she told positive stories which made her feel positive expectation, which inspired actions. Then those actions led her to her desired outcomes. Outcomes which already existed!
Isn’t that what I talk about all day every day here? Of course it is.
How does that equate to the dirisive “magical thinking?”
Stories create reality. Beliefs create reality. Action doesn’t create reality. Action moves you to a place in time and space where what you want materializes. If you want a partner willing to love you in the way you want, you must become a match to that person you idealize.
Idealization isn’t bad. Idealizing gets a bad wrap because people believe idealizing is unreasonable. They discourage people from dreaming big dreams and going for those because they themselves fail at manifesting their dream.
Don’t be one of those people. Have your ideal. Be the teller of your own story. Get the happy love life you want. You do that by stories you tell, so tell the very best.
Everyone who earnestly tells positive stories in their life produces great results. Those results look like amazing lives. They feel like freedom, joy empowerment and a knowing that they are creating their life experience.
I own a sister blog called Positively Focused. Through that blog, I work with people outside of the transgender community. I share the same information with those people that I share with clients through this blog.
Sometimes, a Positively Focused client will say something so profound, sharing it with my transgender and trans-attracted clients makes total sense.
In a recent, fabulous Positively Focused session, Lisa shared her experience thus far, confirming the work’s effectiveness after 34 weeks as a client.
We all create our reality through stories we tell. When a person tests that theory, proof shows up in abundance, especially when disbelief, but a desire to believe, turns into belief.
Your stories matter
When belief turns to knowing, knowing borne of experience, then things really get interesting.
For when that happens, then one starts shining. From there, life gets better and better. More joy, more fun, more desires accomplished with no effort. But mostly: more joy.
After all, we all chose this experience knowing it offered wondrous opportunity. Expansion, freedom, joy and focus. We came here for that. Getting what you want, even a perfect relationship, just happen as natural byproducts of connecting with one’s powerful, creative knowing.
Life gets great when one tells positive stories as Lisa attests here.
Meaningful life happens when one chooses their life as meaningful. Every life represents meaningfulness, but when negative beliefs, resistance, anger and frustration dominate, finding one’s meaning can’t happen.
Why?
All That Is wants us all filled with ecstasy, joy and appreciation for life, for us. Negative experiences pile on the one who sees life negatively because All That Is uses such experiences. Such experiences show the negative person they can choose a better way. One consistent with what their Broader Perspective knows.
Many transgender women and trans-attracted men struggle with such chronic, negative experiences which produce anxiety, frustration, sadness and depression.
Life can be fun
Life can be fun. But that fun exists as an option. People come with free will built in. Everyone stands in freedom so profound, each person can choose shackles inherent in disbelief, anger, fear, insecurity and “traumas”.
In time, everyone releases such shackles. For many, that happens at the death moment. Sleep does it too. Most don’t realize it, but waking from sleep feels so great because a person experienced hours in sleep’s nonresistant state.
Death does the same thing.
But one needn’t die then experience joy, freedom and appreciation life offers. Life features those things in abundance for those willing to put a little focus into changing stories they tell about life.
From there, life’s automatic processes take over. Before long, one finds themselves in perpetual bliss. Just like they knew they would, when deciding living in a body would be a wonderful experience.
Proof waits for your discovery. You discover it first through thoughts you think. Then it shows itself to you constantly, as Lisa here confirms. From there your lover, whoever you think that is, shows up. Guaranteed.
