TL;DR: The author asserts that “wishful thinking” is the basis of how the Universe works. They give an example of a trans-attracted client’s experience, someone who once considered killing themselves, who is now living a life he loves. The author then suggests readers reconsider what they think “wishful thinking” is. Especially trans women. For they may just create better lives for themselves.
A lot of people, especially cranky trans women, call what I teach “wishful thinking” as though what I teach can’t possibly work.
But I know “wishful thinking” does work. When they use that phrase, trans women don’t really know what they’re talking about. Usually that’s because nearly all I ask have never tried out this “You create your reality” business in their lives. Or, they have, but didn’t know how to do it right. So their tests fail. Then they think “wishful thinking” doesn’t work.
But it does work, 100 percent of the time. That’s why I’m stoked this week. I’m stoked because my clients are stoked. So many produced amazing (to them) manifestations showing them they create their realities. As a result, all are amazed their “wishful thinking” produced exactly what they wished for.
Of course, I’m not amazed. This is just how the Universe works for each and every one of us. Including trans people and those who love them.
But to see it working that way, we must believe that’s what’s happening. Otherwise we get what we see. That’s why “I believe it when I see it” cuts so many people off from a wonderful life. Being realistic, being serious, growing up and being an adult creates sucky lives. It’s better to “see it because I believe it”, like a child does. Then, we open the door and all we wish for flows into our lives effortlessly.
Let’s take a look at the wonderful things clients produced this week and why I’m so stoked with their results. In this first of several posts, I’ll share “Kevin’s” story and how he went from wanting to kill himself to living his dreams.
Curmudgeon creates suck
Interestingly, all but one of these clients are long-timers. Two are going on their fourth year as clients. The third is on her second year. One, Kevin, is trans-attracted. What’s also interesting is, the long-timers both started with extremely negative world-views. As a result, they had extremely negative lives.
And that’s just how it works. Trans people and those who love them can’t enjoy happy lives while being a curmudgeon about life. Negative beliefs about life or about ourselves creates corresponding life experiences. The negativity needn’t be that strong either. Pessimism about life in general or a vague sense of annoyance about life or things in it – people, our political leaders, the climate – will give us lives that suck.
Of course, for most people that sucky life will just feel normal. That’s because such people grow accustomed to such a life. Which explains why so many of our community members’ lives change little if at all. They don’t realize life is supposed to be fun and joyful, with everything we’re wanting happening in our lives all the time. So things going wrong people just accept as normal. Then they get bitter.
And, the longer we hold to that idea, the more momentum that focus gains. It’s no wonder then that many in old age face debilitating diseases and chronic pains. These aren’t the result of old age. They are the result of a long time suffering negative world views, especially negative views about one’s self.
I’m preparing a whole separate blog about the connection between thoughts and physical illnesses, a connection which science is [finally] acknowledging exists. Illness doesn’t come from no where. Our thoughts create them. Just like they create everything else we experience. Including our success – or not – in love.
But it’s not magic
Changing those negative world views and their corresponding momentum requires persistence and commitment. Creating our reality isn’t magic. We don’t go from unsatisfying life to joyful life in an instant. We first must soothe that negative momentum created from years of persistent negative thinking and believing. The good news is, soothing that old momentum doesn’t take as long as it took to create it. Forty or fifty years of chronic negative thinking can turn around quickly. But it doesn’t happen overnight. As I said, this “you create your reality” business isn’t magic.
That’s what these advanced clients are finding. And though it’s not magic, results they’re getting sure seem magical. It seems that way because none of these clients did ANYTHING in the world of action to create what you’re about to read. Instead, the Universe did it all for them. It did that as an expression of how worthy each of these clients are.
You are just as worthy. And since the Universe has unlimited creative capacity, you can enjoy any life you want. All that’s required is you lining up with it. Just like these clients did.
Now let’s take a look at the first client’s experience.
From suicide to stage
The first client I’m going to call Kevin. Kevin’s been a client more than four years. About three years in, he let his ego get the best of him and quit the practice in anger. He thought he could do the practice better without a guide. And while some can, most people cannot. Which explains why so many who try to prove to themselves “wishful thinking” doesn’t work, get that result. Guidance from someone who knows how it works is essential.
When he first came to me, he struggled with suicidal ideation. That came from interpreting his childhood experiences in really negative ways, ways that had him hating himself. It didn’t help that he also felt extremely negative about being attracted to trans women. Both sets of beliefs and more caused all kinds of follow-on life experiences reflecting back to him his self-loathing. So much so, Kevin wanted to end it all.
It’s all projection
I know many trans women have similar stories…not about trans-attraction, but about themselves. Maybe even trans-attraction, which is why so many readily call guys like Kevin and me “chasers”.
It’s important to stress that when someone attacks you verbally or otherwise, it’s always about them. Not you. Their attack is a projection of what’s going on in them, directed at you. They do that because they can’t bear to accept what’s happening inside them.
When a trans woman calls a guy a chaser, for example, that’s her projecting. After all, there’s no way a guy could find a trans woman attractive. That’s a thought such women harbor and is a reflection of their own self-dissatisfaction or self-loathing. So they create for themselves situations in which their thoughts get projected into their reality.
Like all trans women and trans-attracted men, Kevin came into the world to express leading edge human experience. His particular expression is on-stage performance as well as his trans attraction. When he’s thinking about being on stage, he feels alive and invigorated. But his disempowering beliefs about his past and his doubling-down on negative interpretations of the follow-on life experiences had him indulging in drinking, whoring, pornography and angrily confronting and blaming friends and family until he found himself pretty much alone. In other words, he was doing a lot of projecting.
Transformed right before my eyes
All that started changing in the first part of our time to gather. But in the second half, Kevin was really ready. Changes came quite quick. Before long, my Broader Perspective told me he was ready to get on stage as a comedian for the first time. A little encouragement from me had him start preparing a five minute routine.
Some false starts ensued as his old negative momentum asserted itself. That happening is just part of the path. Old momentum asserting itself can act as booster rockets propelling us toward our desire. Most people don’t understand this though, so when old momentum asserts itself, most people will double-down on that, thus creating futures consistent with that old momentum.
For example, Kevin worried what people would think about his comedy. His comedy largely entails talking about his trans-attraction. He also worried about his mother’s criticism. She told him he should stop dreaming and get a real job. She also thought his talking publicly about trans women would prevent him from meeting a “real woman”. These worries had Kevin doubt his path. With some help, however, Kevin saw through all this.
So instead of collapsing into his old momentum and giving up on his dream, Kevin leaned in. By our next session, he read me a two minute version of his first routine and….OMG…it was spectacular! It was funny, insightful, and relevant. Most of all it was hilarious. But what was really remarkable was how Kevin’s demeanor shifted as he read the routine. He became a totally different person! He was invigorated, excited and animated. His confidence poured out of him. After reading the routine, he couldn’t stand still. He paced around his apartment full of himself.
This is exactly what it feels like being in tune with our Broader Perspective. We are literally so full of ourselves, sitting still is impossible. We want to move, express, revel and bask. That’s what Kevin did the rest of our session.
Everything is possible for everyone
In the days that followed, Kevin sent me texts about how high-flying he was. It was a remarkable shift between how he expressed himself before. Instead of spending hours at the bar or watching porn as he used to, Kevin literally poured himself into his comedy routine, extending it to five minutes. The more he worked on it, the more confident he got. Here are some texts offering progress reports:
Kevin is for sure on the path to his deepest desire. And his artistic expression shows it. But even more evident is how he’s feeling. There’s nothing better than the feeling of joy and empowerment. They are the pinnacle of what’s possible for humans. From there, everything is possible.
I’m stoked at what Kevin has done. He’s literally gone from wanting to kill himself, to now being eager to get on stage and deliver his routine. I know he’s going to knock them dead…figuratively speaking of course!
Remember, none of this is special. Kevin’s experience can be anyone’s. It is everyone’s experience, even for those wanting to kill themselves. That’s because the Universe is ALWAYS reflecting back to us what we’re creating. And it’s “wishful thinking” that gets that ball rolling.
“Wishful thinking” is the best justice
A transgender reader of my stories once said this “you create your reality” business is totally unjust. They couldn’t understand how people could experience such pain and struggle she sees around her, while I’m claiming they’re creating their experience. I told her nothing is more just than getting exactly what we’re emanating. And when we tune our emanations such that they match our desires, we get lives full of that – our desires. Nothing can be more just than that.
People just need to realize they’re at the center of their lives, creating it as they go along, either by default or deliberately. Most are doing it by default. But everyone can do it deliberately.
Next week, we’ll look at another awesome story of another client, this one also an artist, who used “wishful thinking” in a way that the Universe delighted him.
In the meantime consider rethinking what “wishful thinking” means for you. Doing so could create a life you once thought impossible.
Because everything is possible for every one of us. Including you.
