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How to let go to go with the flow

How to go with the flowHere’s more detail about HOW going with the flow makes your life so much easier.

It is an important concept. We thought the details would help people.

“The flow” is two-pronged. It is your life experience. But it is also your ongoing reactions to your life experience.

Bottom line: The more you knee-jerkingly react to your life experience, the more similar life experiences you’re going to have. That’s it in a nutshell.

So if you’re not enjoying your life, and you’re cranky about it, frustrated about it, complaining about it…guess what? You’re going to have more experiences like those.

Apply this to finding a transgender partner or a man who will love you for who you are:

If you’re complaining about the quality of transwomen you’re meeting, you’re going to meet more just like them.

If you’re frustrated about men who are afraid to take you out, you have a series of stories creating life experience consistent with those kinds of men.

It literally is NOT rocket science. Life works exactly this way. Whether you believe it does or not.

So what do you do?

Do the best you can to SLOW DOWN. Catch those complaining thoughts that have become automatic. Turn the thoughts into empowering ones (in the video we tell you how). Then watch your life change before your eyes!

We promise this works, because it works for us and our clients. You can listen to the show here. It’s worth watching until the end:

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How we can help more…

elizabeth-tsung-HOLDING HANDSI’m thinking about a different approach to The Transamorous Network that I hope will make our work more accessible. Quite a few men have downloaded our guides. Quite a few people (men and women) are watching our shows. But I think we can be more effective as allies to trans-attracted men and transwomen. So I’m thinking through a process to make that happen.

It’s more than just thinking actually. I’m testing the ideas in my newest company Positively Focused. Initial ideas and implementation has got me excited. We’ll see how the results match that excitement.

Like everything in our society, without money it’s difficult to accomplish anything significant. I think I have some ways to create more money flowing in. But it’s going to take some deliberate effort focused on that and that alone. But I promise efforts to generate more cash will benefit all the people who onus our content.

Stay tuned. I think you’ll be as interested as I am.

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Following your impulses gives you everything

 

No matter who you are, your Inner Being will guide you to everything you want. The key is calming your mind and then training yourself to know the difference between your random thoughts and your Inner Being. It takes a while to train your everyday mind to soothe, but it is so worth it.

  • To give up having to struggle to get the love you want
  • To give up thinking the world is a random place where people randomly get what they want, but mostly get what they don’t want
  • To give up thinking you are somehow unworthy of love
  • To give up feeling alone
  • To give up feeling that everything and everyone is against you somehow

There are so many more of these kinds of thoughts you naturally let go of once you connect with your Inner Being. Why? Because when you do, you discover through that most important relationship, that you are blessed, you are loved and you are receiving all that you’re wanting because you create your reality.

We’re demonstrating it in our own lives as are our clients. Now, it’s time for you to demonstrate it in your own life. Our examples, our words can go only so far in convincing you. At some point you have to test what we offer. And let your Inner Being and your life experience offer you the evidence you need….to believe.

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Men: you gotta understand your love stories

 

Men (and transwomen). You’re wanting a relationship. Essentially that means you’re wanting love. Do you know what you mean when you talk about “love”?

It’s an important question. Love comes in all kinds of shapes and colors. And definitions. Knowing what “love” is like for you can help you determine if you’re getting what you’re wanting, or what you’re not wanting.

For example, for a long time my “love story” told me that love included fighting, disagreements, coldness, periods of sexual expression, and a smattering of peace. As a result of this “love story”, guess what my relationships looked like?

That’s right, each relationship was incendiary, unstable, and fraught with drama. The sex was good…for a while. But the drama always overwhelmed good sex.

Later I learned a new love story. I learned that love and relationships were a forge designed to toughen and transform hearts into strong independent/interdependent entities capable of “standing on one’s own feet” instead of relying on the love and adoration of another. From that “training” one could love another unconditionally.  This story I learned from a book called The Passionate Marriage.

Unfortunately that story created relationships that were more learning laboratories than nurturing really loving ones. Learning 24/7 is not necessarily a fun thing to do. Especially with your intimate partner.

Today my love story is more akin to real “unconditional” love. It says I have the capacity to love everyone because everyone (including myself) is love. More importantly, the most meaningful love for me, and the least capricious love, comes from within. Not from another person.

That kind of love leaves me free to be. More importantly, it allows my partner to be whoever she is too. It allows me to not be affected by the love or the lack of love I get or don’t get from another person. Which leaves me happy and less susceptible to bouts of dramas, disagreements and misunderstandings. These things still happen sometimes, but I’m far less rocked by them. As a result, my relationship is more calm, peaceful and more joyful, mainly because I don’t look in my relationship to find calmness, peace and joy. Instead, I look within, where calmness, peace and joy is available 24/7.

Your love story is creating your reality in relationships. What is your love story? And is it causing you to look for love in all the wrong places?

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MEN: Your beliefs matter

fullsizeoutput_2211If you’re trans-attracted and having trouble accepting that part of yourself, if you are addicted to trans-porn and surf such sites in the middle of the night, if you are dying to meet a transperson in person, or have, but only are willing to do so in private, then you are a victim of disempowering stories you have thought so often, they have become beliefs for you. And in becoming beliefs they shape your reality.

The same goes for any trans-attracted man who has one or more of the following stories going on in their heads:

  • Transwomen are hard to find
  • All transwomen are (fill in the blank)
  • Transwomen don’t like guys like me
  • I’m too (fill in the blank) to be attractive to transwomen
  • Finding a transwoman to seriously date is impossible

We’re not kidding when we assert the following: These stories and many others are creating the reality that perpetuates a life-experience (yours) wherein these stories are true. That’s the only thing making them true. They aren’t objectively true. If they were, we wouldn’t have been able to find and interview the people we have had on our show.

Think about that.

Your stories are powerful. No matter what they may describe (something you want, or something you don’t want) you will experience “reality” consistent with with the ones you focus on and believe the most. No exceptions.

So the answer to all your desires, not just the ones about transwomen, is to tell stories about what you want. It really is that simple. Well, there’s a little more to it, but that basically is it.