A long exchange of heartbreak and struggle that didn't have to be, but was. TRIGGER WARNING: some language invalidates and erases the trans experience. Be advised.
The best cis-trans relationships start with the self. From there, any relationship is possible.
The transgender community can do the rest of humanity (and itself) a favor by dropping this one bogus trope.
Nothing ever goes wrong in relationship. It's always the interpretation which creates "wrong". Every relationship goes right. The question: can you see the rightness?
If you're Transgender and having difficulty finding a partner, this might help.