I love it when transgender and trans-attracted clients get results so inspiring, they confirm what I know about the power of positive stories.
Recently, a trans-attracted client came to his session feeling heavy self-reproach, self-judgement and frustration. He had a university exam due Friday – it was Monday – and, instead of preparing, he spent several hours binging Star Trek Discovery while also binging on snack food.
Seems like little things, I admit. But such little things pack a punch when they’re repeated over and over. That’s how life gets out of hand for so many.
In other words, it’s a little thing – a negative story – told over and over that eventually creates realities consistent with it. Then life sucks. Lovers elude us. We develop victim mentalities, then we blame others for our problems.
My client couldn’t shake his negative stories on his own. Their momentum was too great. So we practiced a process that transforms such stories into more positive and uplifting ones. By the end, he no longer felt bad about his choices.
Instead, he felt joy at having binged the show. Indeed, when he moved from his negative stories into more positive ones, he realized how perfect binging that show was. The main character’s life, he said, mimicked his own. Through the character’s life he saw aspects of his life he could improve.
Other profound realizations came too. He got, for instance, that the same judgement he had for himself about binging, he also had for his mother and his housemate. Both spend a lot of time on the couch consuming streaming media. Both also have poor eating habits and bodies consistent with those habits. My client judged them both harshly. That judgement he also directed towards himself, producing very disempowering results.
No coincidences anywhere
We used the same process to clean up stories about his housemate and mother too, which produced even more euphoria in my client. After all, underneath every person’s negative mindset exists the divine being they really are. Tapping into that feels euphoric.
But negative mindsets block all that. With those things blocked, one cuts oneself off from their divinity. There, they can’t see the beautiful nature of their created life experience.
Instead they see a random world where coincidences happen. Life comes with great risk. It’s scary and unpredictable and so they must protect themself and what they have. Cultivating a Positively Focused mindset clears all that away, then it reveals that everything in life stems from the thoughts you think.
Another client, who happens to be transgender, realizing when she deliberately tells positive stories in the morning, the rest of her day reflects that positivity back to her. Life just gets better when one tells positive stories about life.
Coincidences don’t exist. Everything happening happens for good reasons. People can know what those reasons are. When they do, life turns into a fabulous experience wherein life reflects back to the experiencer wonderful insights and epiphanies.
The good news is, life wants everyone experiencing its wonders. That’s what the Charmed Life offers: a life where every moment contains delights and joys. When a person discovers that life, they recover their power. Then they can use that power to create even better life experiences.
Lovely evidence abounds
By the end of our session, my client felt much better about what he did. Not only did he get epiphanies I described above, he also realized he had plenty of time still to complete the exam. That’s something he couldn’t see while standing in his negative stories.
Standing in his negative stories he created a living hell where not only was he a bad person for spending hours on the couch, eating junk food, he also feared time to take the exam ran out. He was on the way to that self-fulfilling prophecy. Until he came to the session.
After the session the client felt so much better, he texted me. When the client’s text arrived, it didn’t surprise me. Instead, I basked in the acknowledgment it communicated as a reflection of my own positive storytelling:
Then he followed that message up with this:
Proof in the pudding
A lot of spiritual paths exist. Which offer powerful approaches to connecting with the divine? I prefer relying on Nichiren Buddhism’s Three Proofs doctrine. As the name implies, it suggest a three-step verification process. With it, you can tell whether any spiritual path offers a valid way to spiritual awakening.
The first test is, does the spirituality’s teachings (translating loosely) accord with Universal Laws? Second, the test asks, does the teaching line up with reason and logic? Finally the test says, does the teaching bear out when put to the test? In other words, when you do what the teaching says, do you get the results the teaching says you’ll get?
Speaking about the Three Proofs, the founder of Nichiren Buddhism had this to say:
In judging the relative merit of [any spiritual path], I, Nichiren, believe that the best standards are those of reason and documentary proof. And even more valuable than reason and documentary proof is the proof of actual fact”
I agree. The most valuable evidence determining whether a spiritual path has any power lies in whether or not it does what it says it will do when you put it into action. I know the “You create your reality through stories you tell” approach passes all three tests. My clients do too. After all, they’re getting great results!
But the result I love the most is the actual, factual proof I produce in my life, which gets confirmed when my clients produce similar results in theirs.
Theirs, like mine, inspire. That inspiration is power. The power to create a happy life. A life I call the Charmed Life.
Some people think when practicing meditation or a manifestation process, the big manifestations – like jobs, money, and relationships – are the goal.
But it’s really the tiny things, those little, moment-by-moment realizations, that make the big things effortlessly reveal themselves. And without acknowledging those little things, big things don’t happen. That’s because the prime objective of such a practice is joy, not manifestations.
For example, a Transamorous Network client realized this recently as he told increasingly better-feeling stories. He’s a musician, and as he thought about his upcoming practice one day, he made a remarkable discovery.
“Before my practice session,” he began. “I had the thought ‘well, what am I going to work on today?’ Then I thought ‘oh that sounds so depressing.'”
“So I said to myself ‘I’m just going to enjoy what happens.’ So I just started improvising and really got interested in this one particular thing and off I went.”
He continued. “What happened was I put the emphasis on enjoyment, and ended up enjoying working on something that needed working on, because of the enjoyment, rather than working on something I needed to work on, which would have been boring and unenjoyable.”
It seems this little realization isn’t much. But don’t be fooled. Such little things are precursors or harbingers of big things. And the more someone focuses on these little things, especially one’s feelings, the sooner bigger things happen.
In this client’s experience he learned that a joy-orientation instead of task-orientation creates outcomes just as powerful, but much more enjoyable. It’s way more fun too!
It is law. If you’re chronically Positively Focused, your life must reflect that back to you.
The pay-offs are infinite
This kind of awareness, putting joy first, pays huge dividends. The greater one cultivates such an awareness, the more they realize we all live submerged in a sea of blessings, all happening specifically for our enjoyment.
This is the Charmed Life I write about. The experience of life as a moment-by-moment joyful experience born of the stories we tell. Were eveything one wants happens…effortlessly.
The Universe wants us all living in joy. That’s why discovering it feels so good. This client shared more of his unfolding experience later in the same session:
“There’s been a lot of moments,” he added. “Just in the last couple of weeks, where I’ve deliberately put my attention on the fact that me and society in general are all being pretty much taken care of all the time,”
“Aside from the amazing cosmic set-up allowing all this to happen,” He explained. “Even at the societal level [we’re taken care of].”
He went on describing things indicating this. For example, even simple things, inventions like the rear view mirror, he said, make life so easy for everyone.
“All the things we take for granted, yet they’re made out of compassion the benefit of others…everything, everything is geared up to help each other. It’s amazing!!!”
We live among treasure troves
Indeed, these little things, like roads, traffic signals, standards and conventions, and inventions like rear-view mirrors, reveal how good life is. But only to those willing to take time to appreciate what’s really happening.
With these inventions, every one of us may move through life in relative comfort, ease and joy. We can pursue all kinds of activities. Activities bringing us satisfaction, pleasure and fulfillment.
Afterwards, my client and I marveled in his realizations. And we marveled for a purpose. Because by focusing on these little things, focusing on them and appreciating them for the blessings they are, our perception broadens until life reveals its secrets.
In every life instance, every waking moment, we stand among treasure troves. Troves everyone enjoys, or takes for granted.
But when one focuses on these little things, recognizing and appreciating them, they soothe resistance born of bogus beliefs about life. Those bogus beliefs make the troves invisible. Meanwhile, these little things, things bogus beliefs make impossible to see, add up to larger blessings. They add up to things we desire, like more money, better work, peace and happiness and, yes, even love.
Castles and buttons both seen easy
Over time though, as resistance gives way to better-feeling stories, one discovers their place at the center of the Universe. There the Universe reveals its conspiracies. There are co-created processes happening all the time that deliver to everyone everything they want.
The revelation transforms human consciousness. It creates in the individual an unshakeable certainty of one’s eternal, invincible and blessed nature.
Only those who line up with what they want get this gift. The giving of which comes through telling stories matching what one wants.
Telling positive stories is the first step. Focusing on the little things that come from that comes next. These little things Abraham calls “buttons”. Once they become visible, seeing those things we really care about, the greater manifestations, gets easier. Abraham calls those greater manifestations, “castles“.
But again, perceiving accurately the buttons unfolding in order to see castles unfolding one must cultivate that chronic positive focus. When cultivated, nurtured and maintained, resistance born of negative stories fades. Then, like my client, the positive storyteller sees the bewildering reality of physical reality: the Charmed Life.
From there, buttons cause a giddy delight. Your gaze fills with them. Then and only then, riding on the momentum of evidence your Charmed Life exists, your castles start showing you steps leading to their unfolding. Like this trans-attracted client expressing his wonder at how well the practice works:
A different client realizing his Charmed Life.
Are you ready?
So by deliberately focusing on life’s positive aspects, one gradually lives a chronic state of experiencing buttons lining a path leading to castles. The bigger, full-blown manifestations waiting for everyone in their version of the Charmed Life exist. The question is, are people ready to experience them?
Whether you are or not, I love telling positive stories. Like my clients, I see more and more evidence of unfoldings consistent with what I want. Nothing is off limits. Everything is possible. I create a life rich in abundance of all kinds.
It’s gratifying seeing my clients get there too. And when they appreciate getting there, I revel in their appreciation.
For as they do that, it confirms my own process, my own practice, my own expansion. Then our sessions become what they ultimately are: opportunities to revel together in the unfolding or our creation-rich Charmed Lives.
Someone wrote me recently asking if being an “empath” is real. They wondered how Law of Attraction works for empaths since no one, this person claims, can “absorb another’s feelings.”
It’s a good question. The question sits right among other questions people don’t want answers to because the answers, while accurate, confront commonly-accepted explanations about life and how it works. Especially for transgender and trans-attracted people.
I get a lot of resistance from some transgender women who think they know how reality works. Especially how it works around being trans, or getting a relationship. When I share how it really works, they’ll fire back. Doing so, they double down on their indoctrination. Even while what I offer could dramatically improve their lives.
Society accepts people calling themselves empaths. It’s funny how society accepts empaths, but finds accepting “transgender” hard. I know this is changing, but being “empath” as a concept is far more accepted than being trans. And let’s not even consider being trans-attracted.
Lots of articles online describe characteristics of being an empath. Such articles also offer advice about being one. They suggest ways of negotiating struggles empaths have, and how to become an empath if you’re not.
For the record, I would NEVER recommend someone become an empath. Especially trans-attracted or transgender people. Nor would I recommend anyone claim that word to describe themselves if they think they are one. Here’s why.
“Empath”: a slur hardly anyone knows about
A lot of empaths get bunged up when someone claims being an “empath” isn’t real. I had a business relationship turn sour when I told the person I considered doing business with that such a thing wasn’t real.
I didn’t know back then what I know now.
We say at The Transamorous Network “stories create reality”. That means anything someone wants will become their reality if they consistently tell positive stories about it. We’re in good company dispensing such advice.
Law of Attraction says hold a belief long enough, and it will become “true”. Seth confirms this in their writings too. Their book “The Magical Approach” lays out exactly how Law of Attraction works although they don’t call it that.
The dictionary definition based on a science perspective. Not the best perspective when considering things outside of science’s purview.
So let’s take a gander at what’s happening with “empaths”. Are they real or not? How does Law of Attraction work for them and why would I recommend no one call themselves an empath? Especially trans-attracted or transgender people?
Looking at what it is
The definition I pasted above comes from mainstream culture. Its underlying message is the ability to “apprehend” the mental and emotional state of another is “paranormal”. That means beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding.
In other words, science will not be helpful here. Same holds true with Law of Attraction. People saying Law of Attraction is false will argue no scientific evidence exists supporting its veracity.
And the definition of the word used to describe empathic abilities.
Well, Law of Attraction is PARANORMAL. That means it is “beyond the scope of science” and therefore out of science’s reach or purview. So science has no say in the matter because Law of Attraction is out of its scope.
Now, an empath is someone who can perceive and understand what another feels or thinks. The key distinction between perception such as this, which we all have, and an empath, is that an empath perceives and understands what another feels or thinks as though what another feels or thinks are the empath’s thoughts and feelings.
Is that actually happening?
Maybe…
We all are one
On the one hand, at a level beneath ordinary conscious awareness, we all are one. At the deepest level of our being, all of us share the same Source. It exists beyond the unconscious mind, as illustrated below. That 4th stage, far right, called Turiya in Yoga Theory, is that state of being.
A masterful diagram of human consciousness derived from “yogic science”. “A” represents waking consciousness, functioning through the body, the senses and our intellect/mind. “U” represents that part of the conscious we have active access to, which informs how we use section “A”. “M” represents that part of the consciousness which creates consistent behavior patterns in A and U. It is accessible through disciplined practices such as Positively Focused and what we offer at The Transamorous Network. “4th” represents the eternal, indestructible essence of what we all are, called Turiya in Yoga Theory.
So connections exist between us all, which, in theory, would have us able to perceive another’s mental or emotional state. This connection is accessible, but only with a lot of practice.
Do empaths experience others’ experiences – thoughts, feelings, etc. – as their own? Or is something else happening?
We all are one. And our feelings tell us something really important. Empaths miss this totally. (Photo by Brock Wegner on Unsplash)
Vibratory receptivity
Law of Attraction says everything has a basis in vibration. And, “that which is liken unto itself is drawn”. Remember that quote.
We live in a vibrational environment, which our senses (see the left side of the yoga diagram above) interpret into objects and space. “Everything” includes us humans. We, therefore, are vibrational energy beings. Our bodies we create as a way to expand into more and better. We do that via this “reality” which we also create. I wrote extensively about why and how that is on Quora in case you’re interested.
Since we’re all one at the basis of what we are, and since we all are also vibration, it’s absolutely true each of us can harmonize with another’s vibration, or be open to grok another’s vibration such that we perceive the vibratory content of that person.
But there’s a dark side to what’s happening with people claiming “empathic abilities”. This aspect needn’t happen and, frankly, shouldn’t. It happening gives rise to all problems empaths experience. It also kiboshes any chance of an empath experiencing the Charmed Life I write about.
In a nutshell, an empath experiences what they experience because they are sloppy in their vibrational focus. Empaths suffer from their “empathic abilities” because of this. I put “empathic abilities” in quotes because it’s not really an “ability”.
Rather, it’s a failure on the part of the “empath” to deliberately apply creative vibrational focus. Instead of doing that, they allow themselves to harmonize with what they’re observing. In other words, as the Law of Attraction says, they become liken unto that which they observe, then get drawn into it (they become it).
Then the empath thinks they are doing something special. But they’re not doing something special. They’re doing something sloppily.
Empaths allow their vibration to tune to that of another person. When they do that, they experience what the other experiences, but it’s their version of it, not what the person experiences.
That’s why I call “empath” a slur. Instead of describing something desirable, “empath” describes a state where one allows another’s vibration or something they’re observing to downwardly influence their own vibration. An empath is an affliction that’s self-inflicted.
Struggles empaths experience are self-inflicted. (Photo by Molnár Bálint on Unsplash)
Charmed Life or self-inflicted struggle?
Many “empaths” feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. Again, this is because they’re not focusing their vibration deliberately. Instead, they just “let it all in” the good, the bad and the ugly.
Not just that, they go even farther. They also let their vibration merge or come into harmonic alignment with that which they’re allowing in. In this way, the environment they’re in vibrationally dominates them.
But they could tune, and then hold their vibration and dominate the environment thereby creating something better than what was there before.
If they did the latter, they wouldn’t experience “empathic abilities”, they’d experience the Charmed Life. That’s because when a person’s vibration dominates their environment, and their vibration is high, that environment MUST reflect back to the person their dominant, high vibration.
Abraham putting it plain. Empaths get created when people let their thinking get sloppy. Negative experiences they have are trying to tell them to knock off their sloppy vibrational management.
I could be an empath, but would NEVER use that term
In 1:1 sessions with clients I create a deliberate, vibratory “bubble”. There, I dominate the experience with my very high vibration. That’s why clients always exclaim how much better they feel after their sessions. They also come to greater insights about their lives, because my focus brings them up to a high vibrational state from which they perceive life differently.
Here’s a trans-attracted man acknowledging results he got, and his appreciation, after just two sessions. Before joining me in my “bubble”, he was on the verge of suicide because of his stories about his trans-attraction.
Having practiced this practice for over 15 years now, it’s very easy for me to perceive what another person feels. Sometimes I can tell what they’re thinking too. That’s because, I’ve cultivated the ability to perceive at the vibrational (Source) level, and allow that perception into mine. This skill heightens significantly in the bubble.
I NEVER allow a client’s vibration to effect mine though. Never. Ever. Doing so would not serve the client. And, it would be exactly what Abraham says not to do: allow what you observe to effect your vibration.
So to me, being an “empath” is real. But being one isn’t a gift or something someone wants to be, unless they don’t understand what being an empath is about. It’s just a person who is somewhat vibrationally attuned, being sloppy with their vibration.
I prefer being a vibrational snob. Doing so has served me well. In this brief video, Abraham describes why everyone should strive for vibrational snobbiness.
A vibrational snob is something you really want to be. Not an empath.
Why being trans or trans-attracted and an empath sucks
Law of Attraction works for everyone. Even those who believe it doesn’t work. As shown in the text message above, trans-attraction can be a heavy burden. So can being transgender.
Such people usually know nothing about “stories create reality”. So they entertain and amplify all kinds of thoughts/beliefs/stories. Then they “suffer” and experience “pain”. Eventually those stories create a reality matching them. Then the person thinks their beliefs/stories are “true”. True as in “objectively real”.
Someone who is trans-attracted or transgender AND suffering from “empathic abilities” doubles or trebles their troubles. Not only are they at the mercy of their thoughts. They’re also victims of the onslaught of others’ stories and beliefs.
It’s one thing to feel shitty about yourself or a part of yourself (such as your penis). It’s another thing when someone confirms those shitty feelings by misgendering you. And when you take on that vibration as yours you amplify your self loathing.
Same for a trans-attracted person who already feels shame triggered by bogus stories. When they hear someone talk derisively about transgender people, or about “faggots”, such people internalize those stories as their own. Such a person with “empathic abilities” amplifies those internalized opinions/stories. In doing so they amplify their own suffering.
Before long such people end up living physical examples of these super negative thoughts. Self-loathing, dread, fear, insecurity lack of control and more create experiences matching those emotions. No wonder my client wanted to kill himself!
Make it different: be deliberate
But, trans and trans-attracted people come into the world with a great ability. If they deliberately manage stories they tell, they can productively use their ability. The Star Trek The Next Generation Deanna Troy, a supposed “empath”, offers an example of what such people can be. She is stoic, aware and clear about distinguishing what she’s feeling and what SHE HERSELF FEELS. That’s a powerful distinction from most empaths I know.
In my experience, people who claim that title, tend to live lives of struggle, especially socially. Again, this is their doing. It is a product of sloppy vibrational tuning. Tuning amplified by their focus on the sloppiness.
Being an “empath” is a thing. But it’s not a thing I would claim. Instead, I prefer vibrational mastery. That’s what I show my clients how to attain. Then we get to enjoy our Charmed Lives. Where everything we want happens including love shared with a perfect match.
When a person consistently tells positive stories, life becomes not only joyful, but the story teller becomes powerful. Sometimes that power overwhelms the person, often moving them to states which further illustrate how powerfully telling positive stories works.
Terryel shared her experience before. But in this testimonial, she really gets to the meat of the matter: through The Transamorous Network, her life transformed so powerfully, she believes she wouldn’t be here if she didn’t encounter this practice. Listen as she’s literally moved to tears by her experience:
We offer the transgender community this material because of its power to transform anyone’s experience. No matter how crappy life may be, whether trans or trans-attracted, that life can get amazing.
Simply by telling positive stories about life, a person can go literally from considering suicide to discovering happiness so profound, they marvel at the shift.
Happiness and love: available to all
Most people, transgender and trans-attracted, come to us seeking the love of their life. Finding that kind of love can happen super easy. But finding it means becoming a match to it. After all, if someone doesn’t love themself, they can’t meet someone who will love them.
Instead, they meet all kinds other experiences. Experiences like terrible relationships, meetings with creeps and gold diggers, give clues about what that person believes about life and about themselves.
But because that person doesn’t know “stories create reality”, they blame the people they meet, or their status as a transgender person or the world in general. Or they feel shame about their trans-attraction and live in shadows afraid of who they are. Both parties end up lonely, yearning for love but not finding it.
Again, finding love comes easy when one tells the right stories. Which is why clients like Terryel find a happiness so deep she teared up describing it.
Everyone can enjoy such happiness. The question is, when will you?
A Transamorous Network client practicing telling positive stories produced not only beautiful results, but also a life full of richness. That belief eventually becomes “knowing” once they produce overwhelming evidence showing telling positive stories works. Then they’re a match to the love they want, which means that person will show up. Guaranteed.
In knowing, clients begin realizing they are creators — invincible, eternal beings. That knowing is a beautiful result. Because once someone gets to knowing, life shows them more of what they are. Then life turns into the Charmed Life, where their life includes everything they want. Including that lover, no matter what the odds.
Life isn’t about wonderful manifestations though. It’s nice getting them. It’s nice seeing your lover easily appear. But life’s true purpose reveals itself when one KNOWS what they are. Then they see how powerful they can be as they move in alignment with life’s true purpose.
Client stories abound
A few years ago, I wrote how my life includes so much evidence “stories create reality” works, I could literally spend all day, every day writing about them. That evidence continues at an expanding, increasing pace. Client’s evidence adds to that wonderful stream of proof that what we share at The Transamorous Network works.
The more clients tell stories consistent with what they want, the more I get to write about, amplify, and savor evidence they produce, in my own life, thus prepping my life field for even more of my own evidence.
For instance, recently a new client texted an incredible experience he had. To ordinary human consciousness, this experience seems ordinary. But because the client has honed his perception, he interpreted it quite differently from an ordinary interpretation.
As a result, he got the gold in that moment he created. Yes, he created it. Like all of us, he created this experience so that he could revel in the joy of his expanding perception. Most people miss that part about life. I love that he got it so clearly. Take a look:
My client getting it.
Every now: blessed
Ordinary human consciousness misses the joy, the fun, the insights and the glorious synchronicities indicating one creates their reality. Such synchronicities happen in every now-moment. They indicate connection to All That Is, which is what we all are. When someone tunes into that knowing, first starting with desire, then hope, then incipient belief, evidence they produce becomes overwhelming.
Then, a simple-seeming thought to go to a corner store in the middle of the night becomes what it actually is: inner guidance leading to all they want.
Some clients ask “is it really possible to have no negative things happen in life, ever?” Of course, the answer is “yes”. Even if you’re transgender.
If the answer was “no” then what we share at The Transamorous Network would break down. What we share says “this is how the Universe works.” If exceptions existed, “this is how the universe works” would be false.
Every moment is a blessed experience. But every person enjoys free will. That includes freedom to choose any perspective through which to experience life. Free will is an awesome thing. It comes with awesome responsibility though. A person can create hell on earth, for themselves and others. Or that person can create heaven on earth.
And everyone experiencing that heaven or hell can only experience that if they believe such that they tune into that heaven or hell. No one creates for another. Ever. But people can resonate with one another such that they share very similar life experiences. That means if a transgender person gets misgendered, or can’t find their love, they are creating that experience co-creatively with the Universe, by telling stories such as “I always get misgendered”. No one else does it to them.
Beautiful results come to all
I advocate for everyone creating heaven for themselves. That happens by telling positive stories about life experience. Even experiences that piss you off. Do that consistently and life must show its beauty to you. Do that frequently and momentum builds. Then, one experiences a gradual cascade of beautiful results and a rich life. And experiences that piss you off can’t find you.
Once there, there’s no going back. Life gets better and better, as it should. As it is. For we’re all expanding. And what we’re expanding into is all good. Because that’s what we all are: all good.
