How Many New Yorks are there?

What is your intent, your purpose for telling a story that “all men who are interested in transwomen are scumbags, users or objectifiers”? How about “there are no good men who are interested in me”? What is the purpose in telling the story “I can’t authentically act on my desire for a transwoman because I’ll lose my friends, my job or my current life”? How you experience your life is totally up to you. You CAN change the stories you tell about your life. In doing so, you WILL change your life.

Where’s your baby?

You see, when you’re complaining that there are no guys out there who will treat you right, you’re unlikely to find those that will. If you say to yourself, “there are no transwomen in my area” it’s really difficult to find one in your area. The more intensely you think these kinds of thoughts, the more opaque go your lenses. It gets to the point where there’s no way you can’t see anything but the reality consistent with your thoughts.

Admirer? Really?

If a aperson treats you like shit, they’re not an “admirer”. They’re something else. If you want to find someone who will have a particular regard for you, who will admire you, you might want to change a few stories, stories creating situations in which you’re willing to put up with being treated like shit.