Tips For Finding Love And Acceptance In The Trans Community. Starting With The Men.
Micah has no shame loving transwomen. He is out and happy. Just like you can be men. In this episode, we introduce our first transamorous male guest and talk about what it’s like being transamorous, what differentiates the transamorous male from the tranny chaser, and why society should just get over its judgement of a real and precious love.
When you realize you are the creator of your life, as well as the person through which your life is “made”, you come to find, watching how your life gradually shifts to match your desires, that there is nothing you can’t do. Nothing you can’t be. Nothing you can’t have.
How cool is that?
Because we know we create our reality, we are living an adventurous life, tackling adventurous goals. One of those goals is creating a new system were everyone’s needs (food, clothing, shelter, education and healthcare) are provided to all at no cost. We started this project with an intention (our story), a focused desire to make it happen. When the idea came, we were thrilled with it (the first evidence of physical reality matching our desire). From there we began listening to our inner being for clues on what action to take, taking only that action that felt inspired.
That was three years ago. Today, we have a world-wide movement. Thousands of people around the world (on nearly every continent except South America, Africa, and the poles) are working to make the idea a reality. In two weeks we’ll be on the radio (for the third time) being interviewed about the work. We’ve been flown to Greece to give a speech about the work, we even have people giving us money to make sure the work happens. The number of people giving us money has quadrupled in the last six months. And this is just the beginning.
There is nothing you can’t have. You can have anything you want in your life. It’s your life! Life is supposed to be fun. You are supposed to live a happy life where all your dreams are fulfilled. If you’re a Transamorous Man and you live your desire for a Transgender partner in the shadows of gay bars or in back alleys or hotel rooms or Craigslist, you’re doing your desire a disservice. Why are you doing that? What do you fear? You create your reality. The only thing you have to fear is the stories that cause you to feel fear because they are creating your reality. Change those stories, then take inspired action and your life experience will shift. You will meet wonderful transpeople, in the open. People won’t care about your choices in a partner and you can get on with living your life in full.
If you’re a Transwoman and you’re wanting a man to love you for you, you can have that. Perhaps your stories have you looking for love in the wrong places. Perhaps your stories have you creating rendezvous with men who suck (and not in the good way) or no men at all. Perhaps you felt you had to choose a woman because you believe (the story) that you won’t find a man who will love you for who you are. Change your stories and your life will change as will your opportunities.
When you realize no one can intrude into your life experience unless you allow them to (through your thoughts, your focus), when you realize every experience you have is a result of the thoughts you think, once you get over the resistance to those facts, you become truly invincible, impervious to negative outcomes. It doesn’t get any better than that! Well it does, but, you know what we’re saying.
Some my argue “well no one would intentionally creates negative situations in their life. That’s crazy.” And we say, oh? Is it so crazy to create negative situations when those situations, over time, become the spring board, the focusing mechanism of something better? What if those negative situations sharpen that person’s understanding of what they really want? Are those situations then really negative?
There is life to live. Joyful, pleasurable, wish-fulfilled life to live. All you have to do is see the world and yourself differently. Then live it from that place. We can help
I really don’t like comparing people’s situation, so I’m breaking my rule right now: If you think being Transamorous is scary. Think about being a Brazilian Transwoman. I seriously doubt someone is going to kill you for your romantic attraction to Transwomen. Seriously.
You might lose your job. But if you got balls, sue those bastards for wrongful termination. Your friends might tease you, call you fag or worse. Fuck’em. They weren’t your friends anyway.
In most cases, no one really gives a shit who you love. Really. Not until you make them. You make them give a shit when you believe they give a shit.
So love who you want and get over the belief that other people’s opinions matter. I know, “better said than done when you aren’t at risk of losing your job, man.” Yeah, that’s true, I’m not. I work for myself. It’s also fucking irrelevant. What is relevant is what you want to believe because what you’re believing now is creating your life experience. Keep believing other people determine who you are. That’s what you’ll get. Keep believing being seen in public with a transperson is too much to (emotionally) bear. It will be. Keep believing your parents won’t approve. You’re the one creating that situation, not your parents.
Or…
Realize you are the one in control of your life experience. It’s a simple matter. But it doesn’t start that way. You create miracles on a moment by moment basis. You just don’t know you’re doing it. Once you do, you’ll discover a whole different world and how easy it can be to live there instead of living where you can’t be who you are.
There’s a world out there waiting for you. It’s a world where you can step out of your limitations and live the life you’re meant to, the one you chose to live before you got here. That life includes loving transwomen proud and out loud.
The only thing at stake is your happiness. It’s yours for the taking. Don’t know how to get it? I can show you.
There’s an article on Medium got my attention. Be A Fucking Weirdo, it’s called.
It’s really about creativity. But it’s so spot on for transpeople. It totally works for Transamorous Men. The gist is, you’re only going to give to the world what you came to give to the world by being all that you are, not that stuffed-into-a-box person you became after childhood. Let your freak-flag fly because you’ll love your self and give room for others to do that too.
As a creative, I love this kind of messaging. As a Transamorous Male, I love it even more. I love being on the edge, where humanity is taking steps into the known-unknown of its own becoming. Knowing I create my own reality, there’s no risk, no fear. Only Joy.
You can live this joy too. It doesn’t matter if you’re trans, or someone romantically attracted to transpeople. Joy is there for the having folks. You just have to apply a little more attention to the life you live in your “head” and a little less attention to the world around you….just for a while.
Then watch your world change right before your eyes. Promise.
Just love this juicy part. I think it speaks right at us:
If you try and turn yourself into a stranger, someone you don’t truly recognise when you look in the mirror and see grey where there used to be vibrant colour, sooner or later that’s going to hurt you. It will crush you.
You’ll start to lose any kind of value in your life and you won’t feel comfortable in your skin.
That’s no way to live. It’s no way to be. It’s no way to exist. When you start to lose the pieces of you that give you a fire for life, sooner or later that fire goes out.
I don’t want to be there when that happens to you. It’s sad, it’s hard and it’s painful. Hiding from yourself is the surest path to self hatred, self pity and a whole lot of missed potential.
I don’t believe it will actually crush you if you look in the mirror and see grey. I do believe that “crushing” pressure will – in some way – force you to realize what you really are and get on with being that! No risk. All joy.
That is, if you choose.
I’m eager for the day when more transamorous men are out and open about their romantic attraction to transwomen. I’m certainly doing my part, with this blog, my new podcast and the fledgling YouTube Channel. I recently sent invitations to like ten men I’ve seen online in various websites, sharing their interest in transwomen via M4T posts. So far not one has accepted the invitation or even replied.
There’s a reason I call The Man’s Guide To Finding Your Transgender Partner “The Man’s” guide. To quote directly from the guide:
It’s called “The man’s guide to finding a transgender partner” for a reason. Getting what you want means embracing who you are in all your glorious authenticity. It takes courage, persistence, patience, self-awareness. You must overcome those fears. Good news is the Universe is standing by to back you up. The results you produce will be worth it.
A “man” in today’s world is not the same “man” that you’ve learned in school, from family or books and movies. A “man” in this case is someone who lives life authentically, on his own terms, who doesn’t give a shit what others think, and has an optimistic, constructive perspective on the life he sees and is creating.
Don’t worry if this isn’t you. Within every male is a man waiting to get out. The process outlined in this book is a great way of freeing your authentic manhood. That’s because living authentically and pursuing your dream will require you to develop those characteristics listed above.
I know there are men who are married to transwomen. I know there are men who are dating transwomen. I know there are at least two men who are being authentic about their attraction to transwomen without a care for what the world thinks of them.
The momentum already has begun. Soon there will be thousands of men, tens of thousands, out and proud about who they love and who they are.
Transwomen and the entire trans community will be so much better off when that day comes. And it is coming.
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