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March 8, 2022March 8, 2022

How To Create Your Best Future

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A transgender client of mine enjoys gambling. She goes to her local casino every once in a while to wind down and play. A couple of my clients do this. It’s not something I find interesting, but what interests me about both clients is how often they win.

This Transamorous Network client’s experience, let’s call her Lucy, shows how looking “positively deranged” by telling positive stories about everything gives one access to powerful insight, insight that reveals the future.

Follow that insight and the future turns out great. You don’t need luck. And you needn’t try.

I found it interesting Lucy’s Broader Perspective used her gambling hobby as the backdrop to an amazing unfolding. Here’s what happened.

Your role in All That Is

One day Lucy headed to her favorite casino with $100 in her pocket. She planned to gamble just that money then head home.

So she walked into the casino, and, the moment she was inside, she got an impulse. She said she heard it as plain as day. The impulse said “put it all on 11”.

As one practices telling positive stories, that person connects with their Broader Perspective. That’s the part of everyone that remains in nonphysical while a portion of that perspective, that eternal, indestructible being, creates then inhabits the physical bodies we know as ourselves.

That Broader Perspective enjoys a birds-eye view of our unfolding life. It sees all probable future realities that shoot out from us as we observe, interact with and interpret the world around us. From all we interact with and interpret, we create desires. And those desires become the fullness of All That Is.

Our Broader Perspective holds all of that and sends us signals – impulses – that, if followed, draw to us situations and circumstances consistent with fulfilled versions of those desires. Hearing the impulses requires becoming a match to this broader knowing. That’s what being “positively deranged” means: seeing the world the way one’s Broader Perspective sees it.

Obviously, great advantage exists for the person able to hear these impulses. Every Transamorous Network client develops this ability. That outcome is guaranteed as well as several others. And when they do develop this ability, then consistently follow those impulses, their life becomes the Charmed Life I write about.

Everything they want comes easily and effortlessly. It’s guaranteed.

Inner guidance advantage

When her impulse said “put it all on 11”, Lucy knew this came from being positively deranged. So she was excited about what came next.

What’s interesting about that impulse is Lucy’s Broader Perspective knew Lucy enjoyed the roulette table. So when Lucy received this impulse, she knew it meant “at the roulette table.”

But it’s also interesting – and you may know this – that 11, the number her Broader Perspective offered, is known as a powerful numerological number. One signifying a “spiritual message”.

But Lucy is just starting to learn to hear…then follow…this highly advantageous inner guidance. So when she got the impulse, she felt super excited, she said.

“I knew this was guidance from Source or my higher power or whatever,” she said. “It came the moment I walked in the door. It was obvious it wasn’t a passing thought. I knew where it came from, you know what I mean?”

I did know.

Such impulses come to me all the time. My practice includes immediately following such impulses, no matter how trivial they feel. Even if nothing immediately obvious results, I know following as many as possible, as quickly as possible, makes it possible in the future to hear, then response in kind to future, more significant impulses.

Impulses one receives from one’s Broader Perspective is the sign everyone looks for. Follow them and watch the Charmed Life emerge effortlessly. (Photo by Austin Chan on Unsplash)

Fear, doubt: buzz killers

Lucy isn’t there yet. As she went from the entrance to the roulette table, doubts about the impulse rose from within her. “Doubt” is not as strong as “fear”, but both indicate beliefs or thoughts that are inconsistent with what one’s Broader Perspective knows about the subject under consideration.

Every emotion is about that and only that. But doubt and fear say “Hey! Mind your thoughts young Padewan, you’re blocking your connection to the force!”

Lucy feared this impulse might not be what she thought it was, she said. She feared putting “all” her money on one number. If she didn’t win, she thought, her visit would be really short…only a few minutes! In other words, she didn’t fully trust her Broader Perspective guidance.

Little did she know, the doubt and fear she felt was part of a wonderful unfolding underway. An unfolding she couldn’t have predicted.

By the time she got to the table, her doubt had hold of her. But not all the way. Instead of putting all $100 on 11, she reasoned, she decided to put half of it down on 11 and keep the rest. This whole reasoning process happened in mere fractions of a second before she took her place at the table. So for those around her, she looked confident and determined.

To them, she arrived, sat, pulled out $50 and confidently put it on 11.

Numbers and their meanings get introduced to advanced Transamorous Network clients. Some think numerology is hooey. But when one delves deeply into spiritual matters, it begins making sense. (Photo courtesy Pinterest)

Knowing the future

Of course, the wheel stopped…on 11. Lucy wasn’t the only one surprised. She said the whole table looked at her in shock, including the person running the table. Here this woman just arrived and in a split second put down a bet…and won!

Lucy won $1,500 off of a $50 bet in less than three minutes after entering the casino, less than three seconds after arriving at the table!

That was enough for her. She packed up her things and started leaving. Those nearest her tried to get her to stay, but Lucy had enough. She got what she wanted, even though she didn’t realize it would be so fun.

“I was overwhelmed with how easy it was, Perry,” she told me in our session following that weekend. “It was like I knew before hand what was going to happen. And I did!”

Lucy said, and I agreed, that following the impulse half-way was better than following it fully because she learned something really important.

“If I had put it all on 11,” she explained. “The real gift wouldn’t have sunk in as strong. I followed it half-way and got the half-way result. So now I know I can follow my impulses, no question.”

Indeed. Had Lucy followed completely the impulse she received, she would have won over $3000 off a $100 bet in seconds.

But given the way it happened, Lucy got a lot more than three grand. Next time she receives an impulse, she now knew, she’d follow it to the wonderful, full, delightful and surprising manifested unfolding awaiting her instead of letting doubt kibosh that. In other words, she knew now she could trust her inner knowing.

Still, the partial version was pretty cool.

“I feel so taken care of,” She said. “Everything always works out for me.”

It’s the best future

The Universe ensures everything works out for everyone. And everyone can live the Charmed Life my clients and I do. All it takes is a little practice learning to see the world through “the mind and eyes of god” that Broader Perspective everyone has looking out for them and sending them signals leading to everything they want.

We all came here knowing this. And we all get knocked off course for a little while. We forget how powerful and all-knowing we actually are.

That’s because life experience is bewildering in its real and tangible splendor. It doesn’t help that we come into the world through people equally out to lunch about what’s happening. So few get what you’re reading. That means parents, teachers, bosses and political leaders are all, for the most part, leading people in all kinds of crazy directions.

The best future comes from positive stories you tell about everything. Such stories make you a match with your Broader Perspective. Then everything comes easy as pie. Recover that and find your Charmed Life. It’s easy. Need help? I got your bac k.

January 4, 2022November 22, 2021

Better Results Always Get Greater

I love knowing that life always gets better. Nothing beats that knowing other than seeing it happen. Seeing it happen is what makes telling the right stories so fun. Especially when it comes to trans-attracted love.

But people, especially in relationships, believe in “too good to be true” or, waiting “for the other shoe to drop”. They expect something negative is always out there. Something is always out there, especially in relationships, waiting to go wrong.

There’s never a need for “the other shoe to drop”. Unless, of course, you expect that. What a person expects, happens. So when I respond to questions from trans women or trans-attracted men about why their love life isn’t working, I always tell them it is working. They get exactly what they expect.

The reason why people think their love lives don’t work is because they don’t understand what’s happening. Often a person will think they’re expecting what they want. But actually, they’re doing the exact opposite. As one client recently described here on our YouTube Channel:

A client totally nails it…

So a person might think they’re expecting what they want, but aren’t. Then when what they want doesn’t happen, they’re oblivious as to why.

The power of momentum

Momentum creates everything. But one must understand which direction their momentum builds. Momentum can happen in the direction of what someone doesn’t want. But, when a person tells the right stories consistently, that focus creates momentum which ensures desired relationships. My housemate situation illustrated this perfectly.

For the last year, I’ve enjoyed two housemates matching perfectly my positive focus. A third moved in at the beginning of the year who started off looking like a match. But in short order they proved how unmatched they were.

So instead of focusing on those things not matching what I wanted, I instead did as I did before with previous mis-match housemate situations: I focused on what it would be like not having them there.

It was no wonder then this past summer this person announced they made other living arrangements. I knew that meant my housing situation would improve. So instead of thinking about how wonderful it was that this person soon would be gone, I focused on the next person and how great of a match – a better match – they would be.

My landlord reflects me perfectly

Since living here so long, I enjoy a great relationship with my landlords. We’ve seen renters come and go and we work well together screening potential applicants.

I can’t help infusing that process with my positive focus, which sometimes kind of gets on my landlord’s nerves, because it can look like I’m rather passive with screening applicants in a timely manner.

I know scarcity consciousness drives much behavior which looks like “responsiveness”. After all, if something offered to me is mine, it doesn’t matter how timely or not I respond. It’s mine. I bring this same approach to screening potential housemates: the right housemate in no way can be deterred from moving in. My stories drive what happens in my life. Not “responsiveness”.

But my landlord doesn’t know this. She believes “doing” makes all the difference. Including being responsive.

I love when my environment reflects back to me how I focus in the world. One day my landlord and I had an exchange over text that perfectly illustrated this. We differed on our approaches to filling the vacancy.

My landlord telling me how it is…and me, soothing her concerns.

Of course I didn’t want to further inflame differences between us, so while saying I’d defer to her approach, I kept up with my predominant focus on my stories rather than any action I take. 🤣

All beliefs proven “true”

When a person lives in the world of “doing”, that world confirms their beliefs. For example, my landlord believes her attention to detail, prompt comms and quick scheduling of viewings makes all the difference. But I know all that action pales in comparison to holding true to the knowing that the Universe handles all this and my action means very little in my life unfolding.

But if a person (like my landlord) believes action makes all the difference, that person’s life will confirm such beliefs as “true”. And in that truth, one better take prompt action or else.

Any belief believed long enough will produce corresponding realities proving that belief true. The problem with belief in actions as being predominant factors for desires becoming things is, when it comes to desires where you feel powerless to act, such desires seem impossible.

If I want a partner, and I don’t know what action to take to get her, the powerlessness I might feel indicates I have stories preventing me from getting what I want. “Action makes all the difference” could be (and often is) one such story.

Soothing such stories creates a life proving what my landlord says I know; that the Universe delivers. I trust in that because that’s what my stories have created a life full of. So I KNOW this to be.

My landlord doesn’t and that’s ok.

The uncanny proving itself

But then my landlord sent the following story which totally confirmed what she knew about me: the universe will orchestrate people out of the path who are not a match to what I want and deliver those who are:

I know our views, my landlord and mine, are more similar that she thinks. But her upbringing has her kind of focusing more in the “doing space” than me. That’s ok. Because days and several bad fits later, she sent another text:

Unstoppable coordination

It was a perfect unfolding. Joe first connected with my landlord for a room she had in her house, but the timing/match delayed that consummation so the unfolding would continue such that he became my housemate!

Right around the same time, one of my other housemates gave notice. She’s horny. 😂 And she needs privacy and room to…uh…entertain. So she’s finding a place where she can live alone.

Instead of being upset about that, I knew her moving out, as great a housemate as she was/is, means the next person is going to be even better. That has me feeling extremely positive about her moving out.

And that’s the key to everything. I could be disappointed and feeling loss at having a good fit moving out. I could also feel worried the next person won’t be as good.

But what good do such thoughts do? They only set up circumstances such that I get what I think about. So doesn’t it make sense to think about what I want, not what I fear?

I think so.

Having done that consistently enough through the years shows me, not only does it make sense, it always turns great results in to greater results. Just like I prefer it. And by the way, Joe moved in last Wednesday. He’s great!

August 3, 2021June 26, 2021

How Following Happy Impulses Creates A Happy New Life

I created an awesome blessing last night (at the time of writing this). I listened to my inner guidance coming from my positive stories and discovered joy at the end of that journey. It was the most clear demonstration of what we say is possible at The Transamorous Network.

We say stories create reality and any story told often enough will create reality consistent with it. In addition to telling the story though, the story teller must also tune into impulses they receive, then act on them.

What do those impulses sound like? It depends on the listener.

How does one hear them? That question carries more weight than the former.

A client answered that second question during his Client session recently. He did so using a colorful analogy:

“In New Mexico, where I’m from,” he began. “We have massive hot air balloon festivals. Huge balloons of all shapes and sizes and colors fill the sky.”

Apparently these brightly colored rubber sacks come shaped like stage coaches, animals, houses and more. These festivals draw such balloons from miles around.

“When these balloons start out they stand where they are, in New Mexico,” my client said. “As they rise, they go straight up into the air, but they’re still in New Mexico.”

*Some crazy balloon types filling aerial balloon festivals.*

The stream carries them to their dream

But then they hit the air stream high above the ground, he said. The air stream carries each balloon on journeys fulfilling their purpose. The balloonists have a general idea where they’re going, but little control. My client made the connection:

“I see when I raise my perspective through telling positive stories, I feel better about where I am. My spirit rises, I connect with my Inner Being stream and my Inner Being stream carries me to the next wonderful place. Just like balloons get carried by the airstream.”

“I don’t know what that journey looks like,” He added. “But I do know the view will be beautiful, the journey joyful and when I land, I won’t be in New Mexico anymore.”

I loved this beautiful analogy comparing tuning into Inner Being awarensss to hot air balloons merging with Earth’s invisible airstreams. Those airstreams represent hearing one’s impulses.

Hearing them requires elevating my awareness to that of my impulse communication. The impulses exist. My job: elevating myself so I tune in.

For my clients and I, tuning in means telling positive stories about everything.

These days, tuning takes priority, over income, jobs and relationships. No kidding. My marriage ended because I prioritized my relationship with turning in over my wife, for example.

Most won’t do that. Which is why I’m having the life I’m having. Most don’t get everything they want comes through one relationship only: the one between bodily existence and one’s eternal, nonphysical existence. Human relationships give relatively little in comparison.

Anyway, these days, I’m so tuned in I hear impulses constantly. But just because I hear them, doesn’t mean I follow them… 🤷🏽‍♂️

Which is what prompted this post

Last night (at the time of writing this) I finished engaging in my wonderful daytime passions, creating content and leading my team at Copiosis, Creating video content for Positively Focused , and creating films and illustrations for Positively Focused. It was a glorious day I intended ending by watching something on Netflix.

*Catching God’s voice means tuning into God’s stream of consciousness. Just like balloons rising to Earth’s air streams. (Photo by* Aditya Vyas on Unsplash)

But I had a feeling something more wanted my focus, something more thrilling, more satisfying. So there I sat on my couch scrolling through Netflix, when I felt pressure to look over at my desk. My desk sits configured for content creation. On it sits a camera, stand and computer all ready to go.

One thing I created with this rig is a Positively Focused short film called Life is More Than Meets The Eye. Earlier in the week, through another impulse, I figured out how to turn my voice into the female voice I wanted narrating this short film. Other impulses diverted me, but now, I felt compelled to resume post production.

But I also wanted to watch something on Netflix!

I felt pressure in both directions, both I knew led to something good. I even sat there a good ten minutes feeling out both options. Heck, I even said out loud “I have mixed energy, I want to watch Netflix, but I also want to work on my short film.”

My impulses don’t tell me what to do. I am a free, eternal being after all. But they do clarify which path offers the most fulfillment. Any path leads to fulfillment eventually, so choosing is never a problem.

But some choices offer more fulfillment than others.

A Netflix fail leads to better

I decided I’d watch Netflix. I started a movie featuring Michael Peña called “Extinction”. It started ok, but the longer into it, the worse I felt. I still felt the “pull” of my film work. The impulse told me something more stood available over at my desk!

*My desk, configured for content creation.*

But determination to finish this movie compelled me while at the same time the film’s poor story line left me increasingly unsatisfied. Then one twist that caught my attention. From there, slight interest surfaced, but God’s voice kept urging me to my desk.

Finally, the movie ended. I surrendered, headed over to my desk and opened my editing software. The moment I engaged with my short film project, I felt something remarkable.

A HUGE energy surge welled up within me. I got totally immersed in my project. So much so I worked, and worked and worked! It was crazy!

The movie was 90 minutes long. Two hours after first sitting at my desk, I still wanted to continue. Only now, my Inner Being was sending different pressure: GO TO BED the feeling said. 😂 That message grew in intensity as 11:30 pm rolled around.

I give a name to moments like this. When I don’t heed the call of my Inner Being, but then go after a while, I call that going “kicking and screaming” toward where impulses want me to go. I want to go, but for whatever reason – stubbornness, inertia, or just laziness – I don’t.

Then, eventually I do.

In both instances that evening, finally surrendering showed me how profoundly satisfying following my impulses feels: When I woke the next morning, dreams and the ecstasy I felt from being in dream scape convinced me following impulses is always a good idea.

When doing it wrong creates right

I know now following that impulse ASAP is important. In many cases, when I get an impulse, acting immediately is crucial. That’s because, in those times, I’m the last of many “cooperative components” converging on a coordinate in time and space. Take too long and I arrive late to the rendezvous and miss the delightful surprise.

Tonight responding quick wasn’t so crucial. My film wasn’t going anywhere. My bed wasn’t either. But both proved excellent clarifying experiences. Through them I understood, with unmistakeable clarity, several lessons:

I can’t get it wrong. Fulfillment is available whatever I do, but some of what I choose contains more fulfillment than others.
Universe got my back. My Inner Being always leads me to what I want. I need to make sure though that I’m tuned into it and not something else, such as a belief that’s contrary to what my Inner Being knows.
The more I’m tuned in, the easier it is to hear impulses next time. Knowing what tuned in feels like opens doors to more of that feeling.
My passions, in this case expressing my art and my fascination with dreams, offer more satisfaction and joy than any other pursuit. Passions always contain delight. Other activities – maybe, maybe not. Certainly not as potent as my passions.

There’s still joy in watching Netflix. Apple TV too. Streaming services offer so much compelling entertainment. I know I can choose either path and find fun.

But it’s guaranteed fun will show up when I follow impulse guidance. So I make sure I do that more these days. And sooner than later.

June 15, 2021May 8, 2021

When You Suspect Your Husband Is Trans-Attracted

Editor’s note: In this series, we’ll highlight conversations with our readers/viewers. We think folks will benefit from these conversations. All names are made up to protect everyone’s privacy.

Dear The Transamorous Network

I am married to a man who has had sexual encounters with trans women. He says it was out of curiosity and he has satisfied that curiosity but I find that hard to believe.

Later, he admitted that he thinks he may still harbor that attraction. I’m not sure how to feel about it. I have so many questions. I don’t want to push him into a conversation about it because I need him to come to terms with it without me forcing him to.

I love him very much, but I think that his attraction is not fleeting and he is only suppressing it. I haven’t made a decision on the future of our relationship since for me, there is so much more I want to know. There isn’t much information I have been able to find on these interwebs and I have no one to discuss this with since he doesn’t want anyone to know. Ladies that have experienced this, I feel your pain, but in no way do I believe his attraction to trans women is a reflection upon me. You offered to have a private conversation with another commenter and wondered if you would be willing to extend that to me as well.

Yolanda

Hey Yolanda,

Yes, anyone can contact me for a free initial conversation.

It’s awesome, and a testament to your capacity for loving, that you bring curiosity instead of judgement and anger to your husband’s struggle. It’s important that wives of trans-attracted men realize what you already know:

That trans-attraction says NOTHING about you as a female, your desirability or anything else about you. It is all about the guy.
That your husband likely has struggled with his trans-attraction for a very long time.

Both of my clients who are married, married their wives knowing full well they were trans attracted. In one case, the guy didn’t want to lose what he thought was a marvelous woman. I’m sure his wife IS marvelous, but marrying someone in fear that if you don’t, you’re going to lose them not only is scarcity thinking, it’s also extremely invalidating to the person you’re marrying. You’re not giving that person a chance to know who you really are and who – exactly – are they marrying?

Trans-attraction is serious business. It’s not something to think about casually. It’s not going to go away. Though some men – including some who contribute comments to this blog – are fine with their attraction while being married to females, most can’t handle the personal dissonance.

Scarcity thinking is rampant. Does a female (a cis-woman) really need to feel she must stick with someone who naturally isn’t attracted to her? Must a trans-attracted man really “settle” for something that doesn’t match what he is attracted to? In both cases, the answer is a resounding NO.

You can have any kind of lover you want!

No matter how long a female has been married to someone, there is always someone else coming who will love them as well or better. That’s just how the Universe works!

I don’t blame people for all the scarcity thinking though, the fear that has them act now, but then later down the line have to deal with consequences of acting in fear. Because if you don’t know how the Universe works, the world can be a very scary place. Especially in the realm of relationships.

Sounds like you don’t have those fears Yolanda. That’s why I’m eager for our conversation!

TTN

December 25, 2020December 25, 2020

Merry Christmas To All, Trans And Transamorous

This Christmas, no matter where I am, I’m recognizing that’s where I am. I make the best of it. Resisting it just creates more to resist. This Christmas, like every day, I resolve to be more in love with people, more in love with life, and most of all, more in love with me. This Christmas I give myself the most powerful present of all: a new reality born of my positive stories.