It's not the men that are the problem. It's how you're going about meeting the man you want. Change that up and see what happens.
No matter how much your life might suck today, no matter how good your life is now, it can get better.
Trans-attraction can break up a marriage, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.
The way out of bad relationships isn't looking for better ones. It's changing your story about relationships.
The way to that begins with the stories you're telling.