When a person consistently tells positive stories, life becomes not only joyful, but the story teller becomes powerful. Sometimes that power overwhelms the person, often moving them to states which further illustrate how powerfully telling positive stories works.
Terryel shared her experience before. But in this testimonial, she really gets to the meat of the matter: through The Transamorous Network, her life transformed so powerfully, she believes she wouldn’t be here if she didn’t encounter this practice. Listen as she’s literally moved to tears by her experience:
We offer the transgender community this material because of its power to transform anyone’s experience. No matter how crappy life may be, whether trans or trans-attracted, that life can get amazing.
Simply by telling positive stories about life, a person can go literally from considering suicide to discovering happiness so profound, they marvel at the shift.
Happiness and love: available to all
Most people, transgender and trans-attracted, come to us seeking the love of their life. Finding that kind of love can happen super easy. But finding it means becoming a match to it. After all, if someone doesn’t love themself, they can’t meet someone who will love them.
Instead, they meet all kinds other experiences. Experiences like terrible relationships, meetings with creeps and gold diggers, give clues about what that person believes about life and about themselves.
But because that person doesn’t know “stories create reality”, they blame the people they meet, or their status as a transgender person or the world in general. Or they feel shame about their trans-attraction and live in shadows afraid of who they are. Both parties end up lonely, yearning for love but not finding it.
Again, finding love comes easy when one tells the right stories. Which is why clients like Terryel find a happiness so deep she teared up describing it.
Everyone can enjoy such happiness. The question is, when will you?
A Transamorous Network client practicing telling positive stories produced not only beautiful results, but also a life full of richness. That belief eventually becomes “knowing” once they produce overwhelming evidence showing telling positive stories works. Then they’re a match to the love they want, which means that person will show up. Guaranteed.
In knowing, clients begin realizing they are creators — invincible, eternal beings. That knowing is a beautiful result. Because once someone gets to knowing, life shows them more of what they are. Then life turns into the Charmed Life, where their life includes everything they want. Including that lover, no matter what the odds.
Life isn’t about wonderful manifestations though. It’s nice getting them. It’s nice seeing your lover easily appear. But life’s true purpose reveals itself when one KNOWS what they are. Then they see how powerful they can be as they move in alignment with life’s true purpose.
Client stories abound
A few years ago, I wrote how my life includes so much evidence “stories create reality” works, I could literally spend all day, every day writing about them. That evidence continues at an expanding, increasing pace. Client’s evidence adds to that wonderful stream of proof that what we share at The Transamorous Network works.
The more clients tell stories consistent with what they want, the more I get to write about, amplify, and savor evidence they produce, in my own life, thus prepping my life field for even more of my own evidence.
For instance, recently a new client texted an incredible experience he had. To ordinary human consciousness, this experience seems ordinary. But because the client has honed his perception, he interpreted it quite differently from an ordinary interpretation.
As a result, he got the gold in that moment he created. Yes, he created it. Like all of us, he created this experience so that he could revel in the joy of his expanding perception. Most people miss that part about life. I love that he got it so clearly. Take a look:
My client getting it.
Every now: blessed
Ordinary human consciousness misses the joy, the fun, the insights and the glorious synchronicities indicating one creates their reality. Such synchronicities happen in every now-moment. They indicate connection to All That Is, which is what we all are. When someone tunes into that knowing, first starting with desire, then hope, then incipient belief, evidence they produce becomes overwhelming.
Then, a simple-seeming thought to go to a corner store in the middle of the night becomes what it actually is: inner guidance leading to all they want.
Some clients ask “is it really possible to have no negative things happen in life, ever?” Of course, the answer is “yes”. Even if you’re transgender.
If the answer was “no” then what we share at The Transamorous Network would break down. What we share says “this is how the Universe works.” If exceptions existed, “this is how the universe works” would be false.
Every moment is a blessed experience. But every person enjoys free will. That includes freedom to choose any perspective through which to experience life. Free will is an awesome thing. It comes with awesome responsibility though. A person can create hell on earth, for themselves and others. Or that person can create heaven on earth.
And everyone experiencing that heaven or hell can only experience that if they believe such that they tune into that heaven or hell. No one creates for another. Ever. But people can resonate with one another such that they share very similar life experiences. That means if a transgender person gets misgendered, or can’t find their love, they are creating that experience co-creatively with the Universe, by telling stories such as “I always get misgendered”. No one else does it to them.
Beautiful results come to all
I advocate for everyone creating heaven for themselves. That happens by telling positive stories about life experience. Even experiences that piss you off. Do that consistently and life must show its beauty to you. Do that frequently and momentum builds. Then, one experiences a gradual cascade of beautiful results and a rich life. And experiences that piss you off can’t find you.
Once there, there’s no going back. Life gets better and better, as it should. As it is. For we’re all expanding. And what we’re expanding into is all good. Because that’s what we all are: all good.
I love it when Broader Perspective shows me examples perfectly illustrating how it communicates with me. It’s the main thing that makes being trans-attracted so fun. I know when trans and trans-attracted people make the relationship with their Broader Perspective a priority, their lives become really fun.
My life fills with examples proving this true. So do my clients’ lives. But this example comes from a dear friend of mine, Avin. Like me, he enjoys the Charmed Life. He consistently puts his Broader Perspective relationship first. In doing so, everything turns out perfectly for him.
Avin told me this true story to support his accurate assertion that, even when someone tells positive stories and gets everything they want, that person still isn’t “perfect”. What he meant was, there’s no time in this practice where someone “arrives” then has nothing more to gain. Expansion is infinite for us eternal beings and all humans are eternal beings in human form.
Tradition or vibration?
One evening Avin sat down at the dinner table with his family, which he does every evening. Family dinners are important in his culture. He makes it a point to attend every one. But Avin’s parents, staunch conservatives, listen to a radio talk show that near always features someone talking about how bad the world is. As a result, his parents hold strong negative stories about life.
This evening his parents kept the show playing when everyone gathered at the dinner table. Avin told me he really didn’t want to have dinner while that show played in the background. Not only was the subject matter negative, he felt himself merging with disempowering stories the programs offered.
Telling positive stories matter. When telling positive stories, one feels better. Feeling better tells a person something important. It says that person’s vibration is “tuned” so that everything they want can come to them. So storytelling is like tuning one’s vibration.
Like me, Avin is a vibrational snob. We take our vibrations quite seriously because we know, our vibration is the source of our life experience. We know the more we focus on high vibration, the better our lives get. So we care a great deal about telling positive stories.
Avin said he wanted to ask his parents if they could enjoy dinner without the show. But in addition to traditions like family dinners, Avin’s culture also venerates parents. Asking his parents to turn off the show felt, to Avin, like an affront to his parents. So he decided to tolerate the vibration and eat his salad.
In other words, he bit his tongue.
Cultivating a vibrational snob attitude is important because one’s life emerges from vibrational reality. This graphic details how.
A biting message
Not long into his salad, Avin felt a searing pain in his mouth. At the same time he heard a “crunch” as his teeth ground deeply into his tongue. He literally chewed into his tongue, tearing a great gash with his back teeth.
“I knew immediately this was the Universe,” he said. “And the message was clear.”
The Universe made his figurative gesture a literal one. He literally bit his tongue! The pain he felt made the message loud and clear: speak your mind rather than bite down on it.
Later that evening, Avin sat with the event. His tongue throbbing, he marveled in the exactness of the experience, how it resonated deeply with his knowing of how the Universe works.
“I thought about how perfect the experience was,” he said. “Then I reveled in how clearly I received the message.”
Together we laughed at the biting humor through which his Broader Perspective communicated. Avin said by the time he turned in for bed, his vibration was so high, he couldn’t sleep. So he listened to meditation music to help him catch some Zs.
It’s as real as me
I know my Broader Perspective constantly communicates with me. So many experiences happen in my life, like Avin’s here, but far less painful, I’m convinced I have a Broader Perspective and it helps me always. My Transamorous Network clients know this too. Here’s what one texted me this week:
Interesting addition: the day I’m writing this, I had my own lighthearted example of my Broader Perspective communicating with me. I rode to the store for groceries. I usually shop at Safeway for regular items, then Trader Joes for specialty items. One specialty item I usually get is popcorn kernels. But this time, while passing through the aisle at Safeway, I passed by the popcorn, stopped, picked up two bags and almost put them in my cart.
But then I had a second thought: “I have these on my list to get at Trader Joes.” I checked the Safeway price. It was the same amount as Trader Joes. In hindsight, I get my Broader Perspective wanted me to get these two bags. And for good reason.
I didn’t though. Instead, I put them back. I checked out, rode home, unpacked my bags. Then, two hours later, headed to TJs.
I arrived, got all my shopping done, except for the popcorn. I went to that aisle and….couldn’t find any. Maybe they moved them somewhere else, I thought. So I asked a clerk.
“Sorry,” she said. “That maker is having production delays. We don’t have any right now.”
I know now, so I know better
Like Avin, the message came through loud and clear. My Broader Perspective knew TJs popcorn supply was nonexistent. It directed me right to the popcorn at Safeway. I even picked two bags up. But I second-guessed my inner knowing. 🤣
Thinking about this later, I laughed to myself. Not only because of what happened, but that I realized what happened!
I mean, it’s really important to amplify experiences that show one’s Broader Perspective is real. Doing so prepares one’s perception for seeing future events in which one’s Broader Perspective is at work.
So realizing what happened, and acknowledging that I realized what happened, were two important steps in my own practice.
I know my Broader Perspective has my back. It’s always guiding me, leading me to everything I’m wanting. Even bags of popcorn!
Next time I’ll not second guess, but, in a way, I’m glad I did because having done so I clearly got that my Broader Perspective indeed is real and serves me everything I want. After all, if it knows where the popcorn is, it can lead me to my lover, when I’m ready.
Everyone comes into the world with world-changing perspectives. Most of us though, fall by the wayside of fulfilling that. We compromise on our dreams and the world misses out. A young trans-attracted man’s experience offers an extreme example of what happens when we compromise, and how powerful stories are.
No one comes into the world with nothing to offer. That’s especially true for trans-attracted men and transgender women. For my newest client, what he came to offer was not only his gender paradigm-busting trans-attraction, but also a desire to entertain.
When very young, “Jeff” knew entertainment was his passion. Now at 23, he still does. But in the 23 years, Jeff talked himself into fear and dread about even thinking about being an entertainer. In that fear and dread, Jeff sees himself as a deviant, someone not only isn’t worthy of entertainment success, but romantic success too.
Here’s his story.
Transgender people know
From age 10 – 12 Jeff experimented sexually with his older brother. This is more common than people think. That such experiences get kept under wraps though can generate all kinds of screwy stories about such acts. Especially since nearly everyone forgets who and what they are immediately after birth. Because of that, it’s easy drawing conclusions that are way off from what actually happens.
Jeff’s sex play with his brother was intentional, wholesome and as normal as his trans-attraction. Such experiences help clarify one’s core intentions early on. In this way, a person gets their “true north”. They discover their passions and, if followed, they will also discover all manner of successes.
Transgender people know this first hand. Many I speak with know early on they are not the gender they came into the world as. Early experimentations with women’s clothes marks for many trans-attracted men, a point where their trans-attraction journey begins. Look around. You’ll see many trans people and gender non-conforming individuals. Those who unabashedly accept who and what they are often find success, often in non-traditional ways.
Nearly all transgender people I’ve spoken with knew at an early age the gender they expressed at birth wasn’t the one aligned with who they are. Including Alexandra Grey, pictured here.Trans-attracted men have similar experiences as children. Such experiences help the eternal being, here to transform the world, understand how they intended to do that. (Photo from Instagram)
We explore connections with that which we perceive is separate from us. Children explore the oneness that innately exists, but is forgotten at birth. Through imagination and play they practice with forces they know create worlds. “Oneness” is one such force. Sexual play connects children with and reminds them they are one with all that is.
But since most people – including many parents – don’t understand this, often people get the wrong ideas when children do things seemingly out of step with social and behavioral “norms”. Those people then create stories they instill in kids which knock kids off their natural trajectory.
That’s what happened to Jeff. Even though he and his brother enjoyed their play and sought it out often, Jeff still held extremely negative stories about what he did. Many he adopted from his parents, peers and his conservative surroundings. Those stories prompted others about himself. They included negative stories about his sexual preferences, about his relationship desires. He even told stories that condemned him personally.
How stories create “rejection”
All these stories led to intense self-loathing. He believed he was a deviant, a pervert, and a creep. He even believed he was a sexual predator who sexually assaulted his older brother. Even though both initiated the play on separate occasions.
All these beliefs amplified as time went on. Before long, Jeff hated himself, not only for what he had done, but also for who he was.
This is why even the idea of being an entertainer, sent terror and panic through him. After all, being in entertainment, for Jeff, literally meant exposing who and what he (believed) he was. So Jeff had a lot he wanted to keep secret. A career in entertainment put him in a panic.
Think about that. Instead of feeling exhilaration and joy when thinking about his passion, Jeff instead felt shame, exposed, dread and fear.
When he thought about having a relationship he felt even worse. No one would want to be with him, if they knew what he did, he thought. No one would want to be with him if they knew what he was. It was no wonder then, that when he tried forming relationships, girls rejected (he believed) his overtures. They refused because his stories manifested as awkwardness, discomfort and relationship clumsiness.
So when they refused his advances, they confirmed who Jeff believed he was. That sunk him deeper into a hole Jeff believed he would remain forever. Living alone and unloved.
Jeff gets better
Meanwhile, he continued his sexual trajectory solo, which had him experimenting with non-traditional sexual preferences and consuming porn. Those preferences lead him to discovering his trans-attraction. As one would imagine given his background, that attraction intensely amplified his self-loathing. For now, not only was he an unloveable sexual predator, he also was attracted to “shemales”, a word he has since stopped using.
Confused and at his wits end, it was no wonder he reached out to The Transamorous Network. His desires felt so strong, he thought they must be there for a reason. Yet he couldn’t bear the emotional pain of his decidedly, powerful, unflattering stories. He needed help and he needed it fast.
After the first session, Jeff felt immensely better. A natural to telling positive stories, Jeff immediately got results The Transamorous Network guarantees everyone gets. The first thing we talked about was how normal and wholesome being trans-attracted is. Then we talked about stories, how they create reality, and why, and how to create a life where anything one wants can be. Immediate results were dramatic:
In just one session, Jeff found tremendous shifts in his life and being.Not much longer after that first text, he accepts his trans-attraction as a good thing, and worthy of pursuing.
In the second session, we uncovered his repressed desire for stage performance. But he reacted to this after the session with extreme fear and anxiety. His old stories got triggered. He felt powerless amidst them, and lost all the ground we gained in the first session.
Unworthiness blocks fulfillment
Such strong negative emotion usually indicates an extremely strong desire for the thing one thinks about. That strong desire creates whole new worlds for humanity and for the individual when pursued. So it is best for everyone involved to fulfill such desires.
But since people come into the world and almost immediately become bewildered by life’s “realness”, it’s easy to develop feelings of unworthiness. Especially around deeply fulfilling desires, such as living an authentic gender or sexual orientation preference. Or fully developing and expressing an inherent talent.
Look around and you’ll see that unworthiness taints nearly everyone, leaving many, many people giving up their dreams and never living authentically. Instead they live in compromise, in unsatisfying relationships and working for others instead of living a professional passion.
Several of Jeff’s other stories exemplified this. He believed, for example, that hardly anyone succeeds in entertainment, and so he couldn’t either. He felt certain his performances would be “too edgy” for audiences, even though he acknowledged the most successful modern day entertainers owe their massive success to “edgy” content.
Even when I explained that many people have successful careers in many ways besides the stage, his beliefs blocked his ability to see these possibilities. Instead, he said just thinking about being an entertainer was “scary”.
After soothing his resurfaced fears, we talked a little more about his trans-attraction before closing the session.
Limiting beliefs get triggered, often without the believer noticing what’s happening. Here Jeff gets it, which is a great thing because now he can do something about it, then chart a path to success through his passions.
Jeff has a crisis
Between that session and the next though, Jeff sent me a text early one morning. It said he contemplated suicide, and called a suicide prevention hotline. That didn’t phase me, as I always hold the story that things always work out. I also knew this specific situation with Jeff would produce awesome opportunities, so long as Jeff could hold it together.
Right as I considered all that, my Broader Perspective suggested Jeff was “panicking” and that he’d pull through. So I held true to my knowing.
But Jeff said he considered seeing a professional therapist given his “deep trouble”. Do what he felt was best, I told him while holding (still) to the fact that all was well.
Hours later, Jeff sent another text backpedaling from the therapist route. He wanted to continue our sessions because, having calmed, he thought they were serving him. Of course, I agreed because they were serving him. Changes in Jeff were immediate after the first session. I knew he’d recover.
We then had a long conversation over text in which I clarified what happens when someone commits suicide. It’s not the big deal people make of it, I told him. I told him he’d still have the same opportunity post-suicide that he’s facing now. Nothing would be lost, I told him. Nothing or no one of any significance would judge him poorly for killing himself.
Jeff texting amidst his panic.
Then: a powerful inflection
Jeff felt relief from this exchange. As we together explored more empowering stories about suicide, where his emotions were coming from and why, his mood improved to the point where he said he’d cancel the therapist appointment he scheduled. He said he felt more certain sticking with The Transamorous Network. Then he sent a text that confirmed what my Broader Perspective told me:
Later, Jeff confirms what my Broader Perspective told me.
The next two sessions were powerful inflection moments. Jeff readily took to the idea that stories create your experience. Everyone knows this deep down. But Jeff really has a talent for it, which is what got him into his initial trouble.
Some people with profound positive intent come in super clear that their stories create their reality. But like nearly everyone, for a while they too get knocked off course. Substance dependence, depression, chronic anxiety and the perceived need for “mood stabilizers” can surface if one’s trajectory isn’t recovered.
Jeff’s substance of choice was porn and weed. But what’s remarkable was what happened as he got back on track, on the trajectory he chose before finding himself in a body. In less than a couple days, Jeff found empowerment around everything we uncovered. Including what he did as a child. In fact, stories we practiced transformed both his current experiences and his past, turning his life from a terrible experience not worth living, to an extremely empowering opportunity where he can have everything he wants.
In a few sessions, Jeff completely transformed his relationship with his past and his trans-attraction. Now he’s charting a trajectory though which he will release watching porn and becoming a match to his ideal partner.
Stories create life experience
He’s not fully out of the grip of powerful momentum spawned from chronic negative story telling. But it’s evident he significantly broke the grip of what had him before (negative momentum born of extremely negative stories).
It’s a couple weeks since writing this post. Here’s the latest exchange we shared.
He still can’t talk about performances without triggering disempowering stories. But he is seeing remarkable relief from his chronic porn consumption. All in just two weeks and a few sessions. He’s also near-completely accepted his trans-attraction as a good thing.
Jeff’s experience shows how powerful stories are. If positive stories can bring someone from the brink of suicide, how easy can stories attract one’s ideal match?
The point of this story is not how powerful what we offer is. The point is only one thing makes someone’s life joyful. That is what one tells themselves about the life they live.
Stories also shape what happens in that life. A person can create any life they want. Once the momentum gets going in that direction, life gets really fun.
No one need live an awful life. No one need live in loneliness, or a life in which their desires go unfulfilled. Everyone comes knowing they can do, be or have whatever they want. Nearly everyone forgets that though.
The Transamorous Network exists to remind people what’s possible. Then we show people how to make what’s possible real. Ready to know how? Contact us.
A Transamorous Network Client sent a text this week which offers a wonderful clarifying perspective. It shows distinctly why people settle in most areas of their lives, having given up on their dreams.
Some people push back when I say nearly everyone settles, especially when it comes to finding a partner. But when one understands how the Universe works, and why people act how they do while not knowing how the Universe works, one realizes why settling is indeed the greatest pandemic of our times.
And not just in relationships.
Why no one wants to settle but nearly everyone does
Wayne Dyer once wrote “you’ll see it when you believe it.”
That statement accurately reflects how the Universe works. A person who talks themselves into believing something, will, in time, discover that something to be “true”. No matter what it is, or how crazy others think it, a person who believes will see what they believe.
This is how the Universe works. It constantly reflects back to all of us what we believe. It does this so we can adjust our beliefs so they align with what we want, then receive what we want. No matter what that is.
Knowing this is power. For knowing this, one can create any reality one wants. All one needs is sufficient belief.
My artwork
But the universal experience of “emergence” (commonly called “birth”) is, when a person comes through a vagina, the experience of physical reality, combined with their forgetting who and what they are, creates bewilderment. In that bewildered state, the eternal being, now human, flails a bit for stability. Usually, that means leaning on others who came before. Initially that’s usually parents.
Indoctrination begins
But after a while it also includes teachers, what one sees on TV and peers. It also includes the immediate environment and personal experiences. Having forgotten their eternal nature and origin, for humans, physical reality trumps internal reality. As surroundings take precedence, it appears that reality exists separate from the perceiver. That’s not ever the case. But that’s what it looks like.
So the perceiver begins to “believe what they see”, not realizing what’s really happening; that they are seeing what they believe. Much of what they see and what they learn from others, who are equally if not more out to lunch about what’s really happening than new arrivals, appears to be that the world is random, scary, limited and requires struggle and pain.
In that world, one must “get real”, stop living youthful fantasies, get a job and carry their own weight. This applies not only to earning a living, but to every other aspect of life. Including relationships.
So the result of all this flawed thinking is people give up on their dreams. Or they adopt mediocre goals from others, or parrot what others do. And since mostly everyone has “gotten real” and given up on their fantasies, it’s easy to see why people would settle for something less than their dreams.
No wonder so many live ordinary lives. And no wonder so many settle in relationships. That deftly explains the divorce rate as well.
The “dream” nearly everyone trades their authentic being and desires for. No one comes through a vagina explicitly wanting this. But nearly everyone compromises, then wonders how they got here.
My client’s experience proves the rule
“Alonzo” stood in exactly that place as he shared his thoughts this week. He texted a defense of his limited beliefs while not realizing that’s what he did. What he thought he did was explain “what’s true”.
But what’s true is whatever someone believes long enough. And usually, that means what someone adopted from others, from statistics, or observation, none of which has anything to do with getting what one wants.
Here’s what he texted.
My client “Alonzo” defending limitations inherent in his beliefs. Beliefs born from too much observation and not enough creation.
I know many, many trans-attracted men share similar ideas/beliefs because such men contact me regularly and say similar things.
But again, these things they say have no relevance to what they want. But they do create realities wherein what they want doesn’t exist. It’s no wonder then that they experience frustration and loneliness or, worse, hopelessness in finding their match.
Thinking such thoughts/telling such stories prevents such men from having what they want. What happens next is they settle, choosing to be with a cisgender woman, who can’t possibly (and shouldn’t) satisfy their desires. Then both the woman and the guy live a dissatisfying relationship until they separate in anger, frustration and resignation.
I’m not making this up. Two past clients lived that example. So I know many more have as well.
Some transgender women tell their version of these same stories. Which is why they live sad, lonely, frustrating lives. They’ll settle for a female partner, even though they prefer a male one. Or they go through dating “hell” online, where they kiss many, many frogs. Hell, all kinds of people tell such stories. Transgender women aren’t the only ones trying to solve their relationship dilemmas through online dating.
So let’s look at my client’s text, unpack these beliefs, then create new ones more consistent with what’s wanted. It’s not hard. And anyone can do it. Because everyone came into the world with this ability.
The way out of mediocre
Statistics offer a convenient analysis of a population. But every statistician will tell you that the closer to an individual member of that population, the less accurately that analysis will be. Statistics also don’t explain anything. They just describe a group of things or people based on measurable information.
Of course, we’re not using statistics when referring to how humans create reality. In this case, such things as stats become 100 percent irrelevant. Individual life experience is 100 percent subjective, meaning, no two people experience identical experiences. Nor do they ever conclude similarly.
What’s more, experiences an individual might have depend 100 percent on what they tell themselves. That’s the only thing – their beliefs – creating their experience.
So the problem with the belief that transgender women “…make up 0.6% of the population, and far fewer than that actually are physically attractive to me, are mentally stable, and like the type of sex that I do…” Isn’t that it’s untrue. It may be true.
But is that a truth that helps this guy or hinders him? Obvious it’s the latter. Because looking at this statement he can’t help but think something like “the odds of me meeting a girl I’ll like are infinitesimally small.” That thought will quickly cause feelings like hopelessness, discouragement, pessimism and despair. None of these will lead this guy to his match.
But there is a way out. If you’ve read this blog regularly, you know what it is. It starts with telling better stories.
Finding your lover needn’t be frustrating. But it is when you’re telling stories that suck and you base your chances on the odds. (Photo by Adrian Swancar)
Don’t listen to the odds
The problem with Alonzo’s first belief is, it limits in the extreme what’s available. Again, if he believes this tiny sliver of the population is the only sliver available, he can’t possibly feel anything other than hopelessness. Especially if he has no idea how to connect with that tiny group.
More important though is this. When a person believes this way, they limit in the extreme what the Universe can do for them. The Universe doesn’t give a rip about that statistic. It is a wish-granting jewel. Everything is possible through it.
But the creation process is controlled by the creator. Not the Universe. So if the creator doesn’t believe what he or she wants, he or she can’t enjoy what’s wanted.
Since Alonzo believes these stats as “true”, what the Universe delivers is what he believes. Again, the Universe can’t deliver something we don’t believe is possible, which is why Wayne Dyer makes his assertion that you will see it when you believe it. Alonzo doesn’t believe he can meet his match. So he doesn’t.
The power of Alonzo’s text, isn’t the statistics. It’s his belief in the statistics. That’s what creates the “truth” of the numbers. Not the “fact” that the numbers are true.
Nearly everyone believes they need a huge group of single people from which to sift through and find their match. But no one needs a large pool. Few people want to simultaneously have a relationship with more than 1-3 people. Most people want only one person. Do you really need a pool of people from which to get that one?
Well, you do need a target rich environment if you have crappy aim! That way your chances are better of hitting the target. But since everyone creates their reality by what they believe, or what stories they tell, each person can precisely and easily move through situations where they meet that one person who knocks their socks off.
But if that person believes their match is hard to find, then guess what? They’re hard to find.
My client says he’s leaving the door open. But is he really? No, he’s not! The door is barely cracked open if he thinks his match exists among only .6 percent of the population. Meanwhile Universe stands ready with more than 100 ways Alonzo can meet her. Alonzo can’t access any of them though believing as he does.
Instead, he could tell stories which cause hope, optimism and even positive expectation to pour out of him. Such stories will automatically make him feel enjoying his desire is possible, even easy. Here’s what some might sound like:
How I feel when I tell this story doesn’t feel good
But I must be here because I can’t be anywhere else right now
I haven’t always felt this way. I remember other times I felt better
That means I don’t have to be stuck here
I can change what I think and believe
Since I can change it, I can accept that I believe this right now
I like thinking that I can change my thoughts/stories
That I can change my stories feels better than feeling stuck
Since I can change my stories, I can accept the stories I currently have.
These stories are a start. The first step always involves getting to a place where one accepts where they are, instead of resisting where they are. Anyone unhappy with where they are is resisting where they are.
Taking the next step
The next step: create stories that dispel or dislodge stories that create not-so-good feelings and replace those icky feelings with better-feeling ones.
There may be few out there, but I only need one
I can tell better stories than those I’m telling
I would prefer better-feeling stories
Maybe it won’t be as hard as I think
Maybe there are transgender women in my town
I really don’t know because I really haven’t looked
That feels true
I like the truth of that. Really, I haven’t looked
I can accept that I haven’t tried looking
Accepting that feels better than accepting how hard I thought it was before
What if I don’t have to try looking?
I like thinking that I don’t have to try
Perhaps there’s hope for me
I like feeling hope
Hope sure feels better than powerlessness
Maybe she is out there
It’s nice feeling some hope
So in a few brief, deliberately chosen statements, a person can go from powerlessness, to relief, to acceptance, to incipient belief…maybe even hope. And from there, it’s all down hill (in a good way), so long as the person doesn’t reinvest in old beliefs.
Stories that prevent you from getting the love you want often sound “true”. But that doesn’t matter! What matters is, is the story you’re telling tune you to what you want? These sure do not! Unless you want to remain single and unhappy. (My artwork)
Get on the upward spiral
Getting out of the momentum of disempowering stories feels hard until a person tries. But feeling powerless, hopeless or pessimism can change in an instant, or at most, a few minutes. Look around you though.
Likely people who don’t know what you’re reading surround you. So they look at the world, draw conclusions about what they see, see realities they create consistent with that, then say “yep, see, I’m right. The world is this way.”
Just like Alonzo.
The minute they tell themselves they’re right, they lock in that conclusion as a belief. Then the world ends up that way. A trans woman only meets chaser men. Men can’t find transgender women who aren’t whackos or prostitutes.
For example, Alonzo told me in our subsequent session that he “hasn’t seen a single trans woman in my area.”
“Of course not,” I said. “You can’t when you have such strong beliefs in the way creating a reality consistent with ‘there are none in my area’.”
It can be challenging convincing someone creating a reality they don’t want, that the reality they do want is as easy to create as that reality they have, the reality they don’t want.
But once someone learns how the they, their Broader Perspective and the Universe work together to create reality, I find these people start on a positive upward spiral leading to everything they want.
All my clients eventually enjoy the upward spiral of positive stories. The better stories they tell, the better they feel, then the better life gets. Then they want more of that, so they tell even more positive stories and life gets even better. (My artwork)
Get what you want
They can’t not get what they want because their Broader Perspective and the Universe want them to have it. The only reason they don’t have it is because they’re in the driver’s seat. This Universe and their Broader Perspective can’t give them what they want when they aren’t focused on that. The Universe and their Broader Perspective only gives the person what they attend to. Which is why beliefs are so important.
Beliefs are how humans attend to what they want. The problem is, most humans use their beliefs to attend to what they don’t want. Which is why so many don’t get what they want. Or they get a smattering of what they want, among a crap ton of things they don’t want.
Getting what’s wanted is supposed to be what’s happening here on Earth. The heaven everyone thinks comes after death is right here on Earth. But each person must create it for themselves. No one does it for them. Not even the Universe or one’s Broader Perspective.
Joy in life comes from figuring out how to do that then doing it deliberately. And the more one does it deliberately, the more joyful they become. Then their world must reflect back to them that joy, because that joy comes from joyful thoughts and thoughts create reality.
It’s not hard to do any of this. Everyone is doing it right now, today. They’re just doing it in the wrong direction which leads them to a life of settling.
