It's not the men that are the problem. It's how you're going about meeting the man you want. Change that up and see what happens.
Trans-attraction can break up a marriage, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.
The best way: So stop trying. Let go. Have fun.
Whether you're trans or trans attracted you can have that joyful relationship and everything else.
The way out of bad relationships isn't looking for better ones. It's changing your story about relationships.