On our latest video show, we take a look at the trans community’s penchant for focusing on violence in the community and why that focus is not doing us a favor.
On our latest video show, we take a look at the trans community’s penchant for focusing on violence in the community and why that focus is not doing us a favor.
I really don’t like comparing people’s situation, so I’m breaking my rule right now: If you think being Transamorous is scary. Think about being a Brazilian Transwoman. I seriously doubt someone is going to kill you for your romantic attraction to Transwomen. Seriously.
You might lose your job. But if you got balls, sue those bastards for wrongful termination. Your friends might tease you, call you fag or worse. Fuck’em. They weren’t your friends anyway.
In most cases, no one really gives a shit who you love. Really. Not until you make them. You make them give a shit when you believe they give a shit.
So love who you want and get over the belief that other people’s opinions matter. I know, “better said than done when you aren’t at risk of losing your job, man.” Yeah, that’s true, I’m not. I work for myself. It’s also fucking irrelevant. What is relevant is what you want to believe because what you’re believing now is creating your life experience. Keep believing other people determine who you are. That’s what you’ll get. Keep believing being seen in public with a transperson is too much to (emotionally) bear. It will be. Keep believing your parents won’t approve. You’re the one creating that situation, not your parents.
Or…
Realize you are the one in control of your life experience. It’s a simple matter. But it doesn’t start that way. You create miracles on a moment by moment basis. You just don’t know you’re doing it. Once you do, you’ll discover a whole different world and how easy it can be to live there instead of living where you can’t be who you are.
There’s a world out there waiting for you. It’s a world where you can step out of your limitations and live the life you’re meant to, the one you chose to live before you got here. That life includes loving transwomen proud and out loud.
The only thing at stake is your happiness. It’s yours for the taking. Don’t know how to get it? I can show you.
Wow. Another great episode on The Transamorous Network Podcast. Jessica joins us sharing her life story, a story full of tragedy, including the suicide of her friend Aaron. But like all great human beings, Jessica has channeled those tragedies into something amazing: her life. We’re all in tears at the end. We name this episode in honor of Aaron and the contribution his life has had and will have on into eternity. You can also also watch the show below.
There’s an article on Medium got my attention. Be A Fucking Weirdo, it’s called.
It’s really about creativity. But it’s so spot on for transpeople. It totally works for Transamorous Men. The gist is, you’re only going to give to the world what you came to give to the world by being all that you are, not that stuffed-into-a-box person you became after childhood. Let your freak-flag fly because you’ll love your self and give room for others to do that too.
As a creative, I love this kind of messaging. As a Transamorous Male, I love it even more. I love being on the edge, where humanity is taking steps into the known-unknown of its own becoming. Knowing I create my own reality, there’s no risk, no fear. Only Joy.
You can live this joy too. It doesn’t matter if you’re trans, or someone romantically attracted to transpeople. Joy is there for the having folks. You just have to apply a little more attention to the life you live in your “head” and a little less attention to the world around you….just for a while.
Then watch your world change right before your eyes. Promise.
Just love this juicy part. I think it speaks right at us:
If you try and turn yourself into a stranger, someone you don’t truly recognise when you look in the mirror and see grey where there used to be vibrant colour, sooner or later that’s going to hurt you. It will crush you.
You’ll start to lose any kind of value in your life and you won’t feel comfortable in your skin.
That’s no way to live. It’s no way to be. It’s no way to exist. When you start to lose the pieces of you that give you a fire for life, sooner or later that fire goes out.
I don’t want to be there when that happens to you. It’s sad, it’s hard and it’s painful. Hiding from yourself is the surest path to self hatred, self pity and a whole lot of missed potential.
I don’t believe it will actually crush you if you look in the mirror and see grey. I do believe that “crushing” pressure will – in some way – force you to realize what you really are and get on with being that! No risk. All joy.
That is, if you choose.
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