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Your state of Grace: your secret weapon

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It doesn’t matter how old you are.

It doesn’t matter how ugly you think you are.

It doesn’t matter how fat or skinny you are.

Your height doesn’t matter either.

Nor your income.

Or your employment status.

Nor whether you have a car or house.

It doesn’t even matter if you’re single or not.

If you’re looking for a partner, you can have him or her, or they or them. The only thing that matters, the only thing that ever matters, is how well you are connected to and realizing your state of Grace.

What is Grace? That can be interpreted many ways. To us it means you are in a constant situation where everything you are wanting is being delivered to you no matter what you’re doing, being or wanting. Whether you know it or not, this state of Grace is always there, always shining down on you, always giving you cues on where to go and when so you can experience endless countless delights along your way to the end of this life experience and the beginning of the next, and the next, and the next.

As I write this, I am basking in my own state of Grace and the results of being in that place. For example, I woke this morning and received the impulse to go to this particular coffee shop. Being tuned into my intuition, I heeded that direction. Less than 20 minutes being there, this guy sat across from me. We struck up and had a wonderful conversation about life and life experience. I was thinking he might be a potential candidate for one of my businesses, but didn’t press the issue.

Later, after the wonderful conversation and while I’m writing this blog post, I got the following text:

Maybe we conduct business and good friendship in the future…you have a great attitude to have towards life Perry. I need to be surrounded by more people with your attitude and outlook to help build more success for myself and others.

So in the land of “making it happen” YOU have to arrange all the details and hope for the best. From where we offer our suggestions, you aren’t in charge of the details. Your job is to enjoy your life experience while the Grace you are endowed with orchestrates the details for you, including that person you’re wanting in your life.

“So where’s my partner then?” you may ask.

Good question. As I wrote above that person is cued up for you. But if you’re not meeting that person, it’s because of only one reason: You aren’t letting the Grace in. Wouldn’t you like to know how you’re not letting it in so that you can change that? Thankfully, I’m going to tell you. 🙂

If you’re angry, depressed, resisting who you are or some part of who you are, unhappy with who you are, unhappy with where you are, unhappy with what is happening to you, unhappy with what happened to you…in other words, if you’re at all dissatisfied with life, feeling negative about anything about your life, you are resisting the grace that is yours.

And because of that, you are literally impeding the flow of that which you are receiving. So the obvious thing to do is ease your resistance about life. No matter how slight that resistance might be.

How do you do that? By telling positive stories about everything about your life. That’s right you have to get pollyanna about your life! And in a short while, you’ll find, like all of our clients have, that your life begins to shape itself into the pollyanna vision you have for it. Just like it has shaped itself into the vision of what you currently have been envisioning up to now.

So, your partner is there and that person is an equal match to your desires. The question really is: Are you?

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Science catching up with the transgender conscience

 

This has always been the case – always – that science ends up confirming what we intuitively know. People who believe religiously in science often point to early civilizations as examples where science has helped humanity. These people point to these early civilizations’ beliefs that the world was flat, or that the sun went about the Earth as examples of these “backwards” beliefs.

But what these people don’t recognize is the process by which these civilizations came to that distorted understanding. For before those erroneous conclusions, civilizations had massive and complete understanding of the universe’s workings. Interestingly, at the same time, some civilizations which held these distorted beliefs, also had fantastic grasp on things like astronomy, and other topics that could be classified among the natural sciences.

But I digress.

Interestingly, those who most stridently deny “trans-ness” tend to point to “science” and it’s “facts” to support their denial.

Well, in the last few months, science is confirming what members of the transgender community – including trans attracted men who have come to grips with their trans attraction – have known for some time: That transgender people are NOT simply choosing to be trans.

This first study, shared in our IN YOUR FACE (see the video above) show back in March, reveals that transgender women’s brain structure features characteristics distinctly different from both male brains and female brains. From the Online News site Medical Daily:

[R]esearchers from the Medical School of the University of São Paulo, Brazil, decided to investigate this by recruiting 80 participants between the ages of 18 and 49 years. They were categorized into four groups of 20 members each: cisgender women, cisgender men, transgender women who had never used hormones, and transgender women who had used hormones for at least a year. MRI scans were then used to look for differences in gray and white matter volume of the brains.

It was revealed that both groups of transgender women had variations in the volume of the insula in both hemispheres. The insula is a region of the brain that reads the physiological state of the body, thus being responsible for body image and self-awareness.

“It would be simplistic to make a direct link with transgender, but the detection of a difference in the insula is relevant since trans people have many issues relating to their perception of their own body because they don’t identify with the sex assigned at birth,” said Professor Geraldo Busatto, a researcher in the study. In addition to the internal struggle, he adds a reminder that transgender individuals may end up suffering discrimination and persecution.

Several medical news sites picked up the study. We’re eager to see the study repeated in the US, but for now, the tide of medical research and other scientific approaches to confirming or understanding “reality”. In the meantime, we’re happy to see science beginning to get it right.

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The cross-section in image “a” shows the left-hemisphere insula, which has a reduced volume in transgender women who have never taken hormones compared with the volume in cisgender women; the same can be seen in the right-hemisphere insula (R). Image “b” shows the reduced volume of the left insula in hormone-treated women compared with cisgender women, and again, the same can be seen in the right insula ®. (Source: https://www.biosciencetechnology.com/news/2018/03/brain-structure-transgender-people-investigated-study_

We here at The Transamorous Network have a broader perspective on transgender people, a perspective agreed with by most indigenous/aboriginal cultures. That is that trans people are a separate type of human being. Separate from “male” and “female”. This separate type represents an “exalted” state of human consciousness, one worthy of respect and honor. It’s no surprise that these indigenous/aboriginal cultures not only honored transgender people, but they also revered them for their closer station to the divine.

We know that will likely piss some readers off. We wonder if those who resist our perspective have swallowed the gender binary indoctrination trope, causing them to want to be seen as “male” (for trans men) or “female” (for trans women), when, in fact, they are neither. But in their “neither” they are something “better”.

The future is surfacing more evidence that those who resist the “transgender phenomena” are pushing against the very future from which the evidence comes. That has historically proven to be a losing proposition. That means, transgender acceptance is a done deal. Everything points to that outcome, including the strenuous arguments of those whose worldview is threatened by transgender people and people who are attracted to them.

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Men: you gotta understand your love stories

 

Men (and transwomen). You’re wanting a relationship. Essentially that means you’re wanting love. Do you know what you mean when you talk about “love”?

It’s an important question. Love comes in all kinds of shapes and colors. And definitions. Knowing what “love” is like for you can help you determine if you’re getting what you’re wanting, or what you’re not wanting.

For example, for a long time my “love story” told me that love included fighting, disagreements, coldness, periods of sexual expression, and a smattering of peace. As a result of this “love story”, guess what my relationships looked like?

That’s right, each relationship was incendiary, unstable, and fraught with drama. The sex was good…for a while. But the drama always overwhelmed good sex.

Later I learned a new love story. I learned that love and relationships were a forge designed to toughen and transform hearts into strong independent/interdependent entities capable of “standing on one’s own feet” instead of relying on the love and adoration of another. From that “training” one could love another unconditionally.  This story I learned from a book called The Passionate Marriage.

Unfortunately that story created relationships that were more learning laboratories than nurturing really loving ones. Learning 24/7 is not necessarily a fun thing to do. Especially with your intimate partner.

Today my love story is more akin to real “unconditional” love. It says I have the capacity to love everyone because everyone (including myself) is love. More importantly, the most meaningful love for me, and the least capricious love, comes from within. Not from another person.

That kind of love leaves me free to be. More importantly, it allows my partner to be whoever she is too. It allows me to not be affected by the love or the lack of love I get or don’t get from another person. Which leaves me happy and less susceptible to bouts of dramas, disagreements and misunderstandings. These things still happen sometimes, but I’m far less rocked by them. As a result, my relationship is more calm, peaceful and more joyful, mainly because I don’t look in my relationship to find calmness, peace and joy. Instead, I look within, where calmness, peace and joy is available 24/7.

Your love story is creating your reality in relationships. What is your love story? And is it causing you to look for love in all the wrong places?

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Death is no punishment or deterrence

776px-Electric_Chair_at_Sing_SingLately, we’ve been posting on our social media about sentences murders of trans women are getting. While it probably feels good for most people to see justice served. There remains a sense of intense negativity that must be addressed in such conclusions.

A sense of revenge lies just underneath the act of sentencing someone for killing someone. Somewhere we believe a death for a death is apt. But we know death penalty cases are expensive, they drain resources and such punishments don’t reduce crime. Don’t believe me? Look at this. Also, if you think death penalties offer resolution for victim’s families. You’re wrong again.

So the “Good riddance” feeling you have when someone who has killed a trans person gets a harsh sentence or even the death penalty, IMO, is seriously backfiring: It’s only causing more of what you’re not wanting to see.

Finally, death is not a penalty. There is no such thing as a hell in the afterlife. I’ve been there. I know. There is only bliss and wonder and a return to your unbounded eternal state. So if you think punishing someone by sending them back to a blissful state is really a punishment, then you have a strange idea of punishment.

It’s far better to invest in real deterrence, particularly when it comes to violence on trans people: education. Thankfully, the entertainment industry, and some corporations are in on that.

Kill all the murders you want and you won’t stop people killing trans people. Or anyone else. Murder is not a deterrence. Nor is it a punishment.

 

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Look: No deterrence.

 

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Think killing deters? Think again.
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Men: How to love yourself

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Photo credit: Clem Onojeghuo

Learning how to love yourself is a life-long process that produces results immediately. You also get all you’re wanting. So it’s important that men learn to love themselves. Because that is the access to everything you want. Including the love of your life who happens to be transgender.

 

By “loving themselves” I don’t mean in this macho way that looks like false pride or false humility. By “loving themselves”, I mean discovering who you are. From that, love of self comes naturally.  It can’t help but come because “love” is what you are. So when you discover who you are, you naturally come to love and appreciate yourself. And when that happens, the Universe yields all that you want. Actually, it is always doing that, but your lack of self-love blocks what you’re wanting. “Lack of self-love” looks like stories you tell yourself that crate the reality you don’t want.

I know, sounds all woo. But it isn’t. It’s real. It sounds like woo because that’s what society (and science) tells us about what you’re reading. Religion tells us that too. And often religious people don’t love themselves. Or others. So we get confused about what “love” is when people profess to love but don’t. Particularly when it comes to loving themselves.

But with practice, everyone can find out what love is, simply by examining who and what they are. How? Read on…

First, learn to see positive in everything. I really mean this. You won’t believe how powerful this is (until you do it consistently). Most people I’ve worked with have a hard time getting beyond “superficial” perceptions of “positivity” and into the deep recognition.

For example, take the room you’re in. If I ask: “Tell me ten things that are positive about the room you’re in.” You might easily be able to do that. But if I say “take three minutes and tell me everything in the room that is positive”, most people barely make it to two minutes before they’re having to think really hard about it.

But with practice, you begin to realize just how much much we’re surrounded by positive things: situations, people, events, and more. As that practice expands your conscious awareness, you begin to realize that maybe there’s more to what you see with your ordinary eyes, ears, nose and such.

It seems crazy but seeing everything in a positive way really is the way to loving yourself. There’s more to it, of course, but it’s a perfect start.

Some guys reading this may say “I already love myself”. So far, I’ve seen even the most confident, open people have deep, negative stories about self-worth and self-value, indicating that, while they may appear self-loving on the outside, in reality they are not.

So begin the exploration today. It’s easy and with time you’ll see amazing results. Including the rendezvous with the partner of your dreams. We promise!