The Transamorous Network - The Transamorous Network

January 2, 2018November 21, 2017

Snark and other things unwanted

Yes! So, I’ve noticed an increasing desire to not engage people who respond to The Transamorous Network with acerbic commentary. I can handle people being negative, people calling us out. What I no longer will contend with are people who fee it necessary to liberally pepper their commentary with personal insults and negative assumptions about our motives and intents.

We advise people tell stories of things they want to experience in their life experience. We’re not hypocrites. So we’re doing the same thing. What we want to see and experience are people who are respectful, who can ask questions while respecting their own dignity and the dignity of who they are addressing. We are eager to experience more people behaving in this way. And we are inspired by the future we are creating with these words!

Yes.

May 30, 2017May 8, 2017

Free yourself from the shadows

llurk in the shadows I’m a bit ahead of the curve on some of the work I’m doing. One is encouraging men to come out of the shadows of their trans attraction, into the bright warming sun of their transamory. The other is to encourage transgender women who persistently tell the story of “tranny chasers” and the struggles they face, to change those stories so they can live lives of joy and empowerment.

In both cases, both audiences are responding. But sometimes, my expectations get ahead of where people are.

Case in point: our Man On Fire Conference.

The Man On Fire Conference is the first-ever national conference designed exclusively for and about men who are attracted to transgender women; men with transgender children, parents or siblings; and men trying to figure out their unique part in the transgender phenomena increasingly dominating social consciousness. We’ve scheduled the conference for this summer.

After aggressive promotion via Craigslist and Facebook advertising, only three tickets have sold. What does this tell us?

I think many trans attracted men are still skittish about being seen in public as trans attracted. They aren’t too keen registering for an event, then coming to such an event in person. We’ve gotten at least 10 men who said they are interested. At least two men who are married expressed interest in going, but need to sort out how to explain the ticket and flight expenses to their wives. At least two other men complained about the price of tickets. We thought $35 was a reasonable price. But guys focused almost exclusively on the $150 at the door price (priced that way do encourage early registration). So maybe an in person event is premature.

So we’re considering changing the event to an online one, where men can participate in the comfort of their trans attracted shadows. We know there’s demand for what we offer. A lot of men are reading and watching our material. We know there are a lot of men out there who fancy transgender women. We know there is a lot of frustration, shame and pain being trans attracted.

We’re still searching for the right combination of things that will entice men out of those shadows and into the light. Maybe its the match-making service I’m piloting?

If you’re a trans attracted man reading this, let me know your thoughts on how we can better serve you. I’d love to hear your ideas.

January 8, 2017January 8, 2017

“How?” sucks

Tomorrow night on Facebook Live we’ll explore how to make everything you want to be in your life be in your life and why focusing intellectually on “how” makes getting those things a sucky experience. You can be in love, accepted for who you are and happy. That’s what we’re talking about on The Transamorous Network’s Facebook Live show “IN YOUR FACE” Monday night, Jan. 9 at 7:30 pm PST. We’ll see you there.

November 29, 2016November 22, 2016

From the mail bag

mail-bag-thumbnail

I’m really excited we here at the Transamorous Network are meeting so many new and interesting people. We’re even starting to get mail. Nice. Like this one, which we really, liked so much, we did a show on it.

Just curious, will you be delving into the realities of sex with trans women? Without getting too into it, I’m one half of a trans/trans couple, and I feel like this is one of the absolute least talked about issues with men who are attracted to trans women. I’ll get a little blunt here: Often trans attracted men cross into “chaser” territory solely by virtue of refusing to understand that sex with trans women VERY rarely looks like the porn they’re watching. The majority of trans women (I’d even venture to say the vast majority) are some combination, or at least one of the following: 1. Unable to top- Hormone Replacement Therapy can make a trans woman’s erections not “fully functional” in the sense that they cannot penetrate with their genitals. 2. Uninterested in, or more likely actively turned off by topping. 3. Has some form of Genital and/or sexual role dysphoria. Most trans women I know fall into all three categories, and the rest generally fall into a mixture of 1 and 2, or 1 and 3. The girls who do not fall into these categories aren’t porn stereotypes either, and often have many of the same sexually submissive desires that the trans women above do. Being a trans person myself I’m very aware of how entitled cis people can be in terms of our bodies, and trans women get the brunt of this even more. Sexually charged messages that turn trans women off and distress them instead of the opposite are the norm. I feel like if a trans attracted man wants to be considered just that instead of a chaser, he should be aware of these realities, be aware of the fact that trans women often have complicated relationships with their bodies and that you’re unlikely to find a Bailey Jay clone to date, that sex is not all about What Can This Trans Woman’s Penis Do For Me?, and more. Trans women are treated like they are broken and wrong by entitled men if they do not fit the unrealistic porn stereotypes, and I think that needs to change. If your (note that I’m using the ‘general you’ term here) sole interest, or the majority of your interest in trans women is for sexual reasons that come from manufactured porn where dominant, fully functional TGirl Tops romp through your dreams, I cannot help but feel that dating trans women out in the real world is going to not only be less than a useless venture, that you are going to actively harm and demean the trans female community, a group that already has an extremely hard time finding real, genuine people to be interested in them as the women they ARE and not the sex toy that these men WISH they WERE. I’d be very interested in hearing your thoughts on this, as would my girlfriend.

We’re also getting more and interesting comments on our YouTube Channel, which is exciting too.

I’m encouraged by all this because we are becoming better-known in the community, which is a good thing, because what we’re offering can really help people. It’s cool beans.

September 4, 2016August 31, 2016

This guy loves transwomen

Podcast logo 2

Micah has no shame loving transwomen. He is out and happy. Just like you can be men. In this episode, we introduce our first transamorous male guest and talk about what it’s like being transamorous, what differentiates the transamorous male from the tranny chaser, and why society should just get over its judgement of a real and precious love.