Tips For Finding Love And Acceptance In The Trans Community. Starting With The Men.
Like many transwomen, Abby believes in unicorns. You know, that rare, fantasy of a man who is attracted to you not as a sex object, but for who you are. Do you believe men like this are impossible to find or don’t exist at all? In this episode, we call bull shit on all that. There are tons of men out there who are wanting to be with you. So how do you find them? We talk with Abby about that and more.
The Unicorn, for transwomen, is a man who loves them genuinely, openly and deeply as the person they are. Like the fantasy animal these men rare. An illusion. Do they even exist? We not only think they exist, they are easy to find when you get your story straight.
In this episode, we go deep on what it’s like to be a Transamorous Man. Is their fear real? Can they lose their job? Friends? Family? What about the embarrassment and shame that comes with being seen with a Transwoman? Then we switch gears with a new perspective on current events then end this episode with Remy doing an impromptu psychic reading for Shannon.
There’s an article on Medium got my attention. Be A Fucking Weirdo, it’s called.
It’s really about creativity. But it’s so spot on for transpeople. It totally works for Transamorous Men. The gist is, you’re only going to give to the world what you came to give to the world by being all that you are, not that stuffed-into-a-box person you became after childhood. Let your freak-flag fly because you’ll love your self and give room for others to do that too.
As a creative, I love this kind of messaging. As a Transamorous Male, I love it even more. I love being on the edge, where humanity is taking steps into the known-unknown of its own becoming. Knowing I create my own reality, there’s no risk, no fear. Only Joy.
You can live this joy too. It doesn’t matter if you’re trans, or someone romantically attracted to transpeople. Joy is there for the having folks. You just have to apply a little more attention to the life you live in your “head” and a little less attention to the world around you….just for a while.
Then watch your world change right before your eyes. Promise.
Just love this juicy part. I think it speaks right at us:
If you try and turn yourself into a stranger, someone you don’t truly recognise when you look in the mirror and see grey where there used to be vibrant colour, sooner or later that’s going to hurt you. It will crush you.
You’ll start to lose any kind of value in your life and you won’t feel comfortable in your skin.
That’s no way to live. It’s no way to be. It’s no way to exist. When you start to lose the pieces of you that give you a fire for life, sooner or later that fire goes out.
I don’t want to be there when that happens to you. It’s sad, it’s hard and it’s painful. Hiding from yourself is the surest path to self hatred, self pity and a whole lot of missed potential.
I don’t believe it will actually crush you if you look in the mirror and see grey. I do believe that “crushing” pressure will – in some way – force you to realize what you really are and get on with being that! No risk. All joy.
That is, if you choose.
So, I’m pretty jazzed.
Yesterday The Transamorous Network Podcast went live with our first four episodes. Shannon and Remy, my co-hosts and I are super excited.
We’ll be publishing a show a week, probably on Wednesdays, starting next week. You can listen directly on SoundCloud or, in a little bit, on iTunes.
The podcast completes our first phase of growth, which includes this blog, the website and our YouTube Channel. On the podcast we’ll deepen our dives on material and content offered through our shop page, through fun, lively conversations with real people from the trans community. Everyone here at The Network is really jazzed about the podcast. Some who have been waiting for it to go live have been waiting too. A couple of people are expecting big things to come of it.
I think it, along with our other content, is going to help a lot of people. Particularly men, and by extension transwomen, then all trans people and their families.
The podcast would have been fun to do if I were doing it alone. However, it’s so much fun
having Remy Ilmatar as Co-host. Her totally take-no-bullshit-but-with a smile attitude livens an already lively conversation. That she is particularly jazzed about what The Transamorous Network offers is a big boon: as a transwoman herself, she can attest to how effective what we offer is.
Then there’s Shannon my other co-host. She brings a different, yet complimentary energy to our trio. I love seeing her, basking in all her positive energy. After reading straight through The Man’s Guide To Finding Your Transgender Partner on a flight home, she too is convinced we’re going to be changing lives with the podcast. If you have a moment,
check out what else Shannon is up to. She’s an impressive person in her own right.
So here we are, a nice threesome, wanting to make the world a better place. With our podcast now live, I have to say I think we’re off to a good start. I think you will do once you give our show a listen.