Tips For Finding Love And Acceptance In The Trans Community. Starting With The Men.
Tomorrow night on Facebook Live we’ll explore how to make everything you want to be in your life be in your life and why focusing intellectually on “how” makes getting those things a sucky experience. You can be in love, accepted for who you are and happy. That’s what we’re talking about on The Transamorous Network’s Facebook Live show “IN YOUR FACE” Monday night, Jan. 9 at 7:30 pm PST. We’ll see you there.
Times are changing on TV. GLAAD recently announced that more black and transgender roles are appearing on TV than ever before. Yet more evidence that reality is changing to reflect more favorably on the trans community. We celebrate the news with this fun, short, episode.
Bullshit.
Some holier than thou transwomen out there claim a “real transwoman” would never top because “real transwomen” (who, presumably are WOMEN, and by that definition would hate their penis) abhor the idea of “that” between their legs. Of course, there are transwomen like that in the world. There’s great diversity on Earth. You can find evidence of ANY STORY. That’s why there are PLENTY of transwomen who LOVE to top! Just because they do doesn’t make them a REAL WOMAN.
Did you know cis-women have LOVED topping men for as long as there have been sex toys? The sex industry makes millions of dollars from men who loved to be fucked by women and women who thoroughly enjoy fucking them. Are these women not women just because the strap on a fake penis and go to town on a guy’s ass?
Of course not.
I find it COMPLETELY BIZARRE that a transwoman, having gone through the struggle of finding acceptance for who they really are, would then look down her nose at another transwoman who is just trying to be herself (and express that self-hood by topping her man). In a bizzaro-version of reality, transwomen adopt a hetero-normative meme and then use it to shame other transwomen (and men who want such transwomen) who have the story that “topping is fun, normal, sexually satisfying and part of who I am.”
Stories are powerful things. If you’re a transwoman who believes ALL transwomen must be bottoms, that’s great. It’s your story. It relates to YOUR reality. Don’t use your story to condemn other people – men and women – who are wanting to create THEIR reality with THEIR stories.
Men: You want what you want and what you want is good. You want a transgender woman who will enjoy topping you, but feel bad, shame, worry or fear about it? Schedule a FREE 1:1 session with Perry and talk about it!
After getting a nice, long and quite polite email about sex between transwomen and cis-men, we had to do a show to comment on the points the person who wrote the comment made. Check out our blog to see the comment in full, or just watch this episode of our show.
Those angry about increasing visibility of transgender people need to “get over it.”
Those aren’t my words. Although I agree with them. They are Robin Hammond’s Words. Who’s Robin Hammond? He’s the guy who took the National Geographic cover photo of transgender girl Avery Jackson. Though the issue hasn’t been published yet, National Geographic is being both hailed and hated for it.
It’s just another step in the eventual full embrace of transgender people worldwide.
I’ve seen a lot of responses to this photo. Which is beautiful by the way. Avery’s quote is so perfect. Since we focus on positive aspects the Transamorous Network, I’m not going to recount negative comments people and organizations have made about it. Instead, I’m going to quote Hammond’s reaction to them, which I think is gold:
“[Some people are] likely scared of change,” He said. “They saw a world where [being trans] didn’t exist and now they see it as a new thing. It’s sad for them because it leaves them closed off to people who are different to them.”
“The best thing about being a girl is now I don’t have to pretend to be a boy.”
– Avery Jackson
If you’re interested in reading more about Hammond and his remarks, you can read this article. Here’s National Geographic’s explanation for their exceptional cover.
