Straight men come in all shapes and sizes

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Like an eyeball, you’re unique. Be you.

Especially the ones who like transgender women. For as many kinds of transgender women, there are kinds of men who would love to be with them. I guarantee that. Even those transwomen who are bitter, angry, pains-in-the-ass find matches. Although initially, those transwomen may not like who they match with. Eventually though, even they will find nice guys who will love them.

I’ve had conversations with my transwomen friends and I’ve heard the stories. Men: You’re not alone loving transwomen whether your preferences are for pre-op transwomen, post-op transwomen, trans women who like to top, who bottom or who are vers. Many transwomen I’ve spoken with have eye-opening experiences. The guys they find interested in them, and the things those guys are willing to do behind closed doors shows how much some straight men want to be with transwomen.

Some of the women also said that if some of these guys, just some of them, were willing to tell society to “kiss my ass” and just go for what they want, in the open, the world (for both transwomen and society as a whole) would be a better place.

I agree. What is it about the world outside our heads that has us so afraid of it?

What is it, guys, that has you afraid to confront the fact that you’re not gay just because you are attracted to this particular kind of WOMAN? The real question here isn’t “is she really a woman?” because the answer to that question is “yes”. The real question is “why are you letting other people tell you who you should or should not be attracted to?”

That’s the real question. The sooner you answer that question with “I’m not”, the happier you’ll be. Not only that. The longer you live your life from what you say is right for you, the sooner those people trying to tell you how to live your life will stop doing that.

Your freedom lies in owning who you are. No matter what kind of man you are, you are ok. You deserve your happiness. You deserve what you’re wanting. So go for it. Be you.

When you do, your whole world will change to support you. It won’t be over night. But it will be worth the wait. I can promise you that.

Happiness is a choice

Happiness is a choiceBelieve it or not, you can choose to be happy. When you do, amazing things happen for you. This week on IN YOUR FACE, Episode 5  we’ll be talking about happiness as a choice. It’s an important conversation.

The happier you are the better your life is going to go. If your life seems like a struggle now, your life can be happy, fun and easy. We’re not kidding you. The moment you choose to be happy, you will begin building momentum and things will just fall in place. Including the man or transwoman you want, and everything else you think you need to be happy.

Tune in on Monday, January 16 at 7:30 p.m. on The Transamorous Network’s Facebook Live Show IN YOUR FACE!

More encouraging signs

A newspaper’s unique coverage of an ongoing issue between a family and the Boy Scouts caught my eye. They reported on public support the family is receiving for their transgender child.

I won’t go into the issue. It’s the Boy Scouts, so you can probably guess how that ossified organization responded to a transgender boy in the Scouts.

Instead let’s focus on the real news here: the tide has turned. People are now educated and on the side of transgender people everywhere. Even within the Scouts members are calling for changes allowing the boy to remain a member. What excellent evidence.

Increasing public support for transpeople should be no surprise. As more transgender people and their allies focus their stories, creating their realities in the process, of course reality is going to change to match those stories.  The question is, are you keeping up with the changes so your life gets better too?

Some of you are focusing too much on negative events. Those events aren’t serving you. Unless you like that your life sucks of course. For those people – you know who you are – life will keep changing, but it will keep changing to “what is” – the stories you keep telling yourself about what is instead of what you want that “is-ness” to be.

Meanwhile others’ lives just keep getting better. Like this young man and his family.

You can choose where to focus. You can choose seeing stories in your reality that make you feel good. The more you do that, the more you’ll find.

And when that happens, life just gets better and better.

“How?” sucks



Tomorrow night on Facebook Live we’ll explore how to make everything you want to be in your life be in your life and why focusing intellectually on “how” makes getting those things a sucky experience. You can be in love, accepted for who you are and happy. That’s what we’re talking about on The Transamorous Network’s Facebook Live show “IN YOUR FACE” Monday night, Jan. 9 at 7:30 pm PST. We’ll see you there.

How blacks are helping transgender people

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Times are changing on TV. GLAAD recently announced that more black and transgender roles are appearing on TV than ever before. Yet more evidence that reality is changing to reflect more favorably on the trans community. We celebrate the news with this fun, short, episode.