Tips For Finding Love And Acceptance In The Trans Community. Starting With The Men.
In this episode, we go deep on what it’s like to be a Transamorous Man. Is their fear real? Can they lose their job? Friends? Family? What about the embarrassment and shame that comes with being seen with a Transwoman? Then we switch gears with a new perspective on current events then end this episode with Remy doing an impromptu psychic reading for Shannon.
That’s because we’re cute, funny and our guests are even MORE cute. And funny. Our Newest addition to The Transamorous Network is recorded-live videos of our podcast recordings. Be sure to subscribe at our YouTube Channel for more of these recordings. After all, we know you want to see what we’re up to!
So, I’m pretty jazzed.
Yesterday The Transamorous Network Podcast went live with our first four episodes. Shannon and Remy, my co-hosts and I are super excited.
We’ll be publishing a show a week, probably on Wednesdays, starting next week. You can listen directly on SoundCloud or, in a little bit, on iTunes.
The podcast completes our first phase of growth, which includes this blog, the website and our YouTube Channel. On the podcast we’ll deepen our dives on material and content offered through our shop page, through fun, lively conversations with real people from the trans community. Everyone here at The Network is really jazzed about the podcast. Some who have been waiting for it to go live have been waiting too. A couple of people are expecting big things to come of it.
I think it, along with our other content, is going to help a lot of people. Particularly men, and by extension transwomen, then all trans people and their families.
The podcast would have been fun to do if I were doing it alone. However, it’s so much fun
having Remy Ilmatar as Co-host. Her totally take-no-bullshit-but-with a smile attitude livens an already lively conversation. That she is particularly jazzed about what The Transamorous Network offers is a big boon: as a transwoman herself, she can attest to how effective what we offer is.
Then there’s Shannon my other co-host. She brings a different, yet complimentary energy to our trio. I love seeing her, basking in all her positive energy. After reading straight through The Man’s Guide To Finding Your Transgender Partner on a flight home, she too is convinced we’re going to be changing lives with the podcast. If you have a moment,
check out what else Shannon is up to. She’s an impressive person in her own right.
So here we are, a nice threesome, wanting to make the world a better place. With our podcast now live, I have to say I think we’re off to a good start. I think you will do once you give our show a listen.
Why do so many miss this obvious fact? Wait. Don’t answer. I already know. The question is: do you really know?
Beautiful case in point. This article tells Tracey “Africa” Norman’s remarkable story as the first transgender BLACK model. It’s a great read. The way Tracey tells it, she had a much less difficult life as a female presenting male than the stories I see and hear about. When she finally aligned her reality with what she knew inside, her intuition had her finding work among some of the most successful black models in the world.
That didn’t last. Once the industry found out – as was often the case – all doors closed. Still. Late in the story we discover how trans black icons today only recently discovered Tracey. But here’s the point: one of these people’s lives, Laverne Cox, includes this seemingly “bizarre” juxtaposition of events, which, really just are examples of how connected we all are in this world.
Tracey had modeled “multiple times” according to the article for Essence magazine right up until around the 80s. That’s when her secret got out. Her secret got out just as she was shooting her first Essence cover. She never got the cover and except some modeling opportunities overseas, Tracey’s modeling career ended abruptly.
Fast forward to 2014. Laverne Cox on her first cover shoot for Essence is tearing up thinking about Tracey and the trail she blazed, seemingly specially for Cox.
“I was like, ‘Oh my god, I’m doing a cover shoot for Essence and this is the magazine that 40 years ago fired a trans woman when they found out she was trans.’” She chokes up. “It just means a lot to me that history can be rewritten.”
Back then when the modeling industry canned Tracey, she had a thought about what she was doing. Rather than sue (she said in the article she didn’t have the presence of mind to even think of doing such a thing) she thought differently of events unfolding in her life:
“I’ve always said that the person that walks through the door first leaves the door cracked. There was a perception that a transgender woman couldn’t be passable and work in fashion magazines and land contracts. I proved that wrong. I left the door cracked for other [transgender people] to walk through.”
The door stayed open for 40 years before Cox stepped through. Not just once. Multiple times.
These kinds of events, these connections which span decades, are happening in your life every day. They happen every day. Some are decades old. Some open the moment you need them. Why don’t you see them? Why is your life not charmed like Cox or some other person you know?
Comparisons are futile.
What’s important is the nature of your stories. What stories are you telling yourself? Your stories are the access to events being organized on your behalf. You can tap in to them effortlessly, including that event where you naturally, effortlessly meet your ideal partner.
It’s not magic. It’s not miraculous. It’s just how the Universe works. Claim your share.
Our latest Transamorous Network Podcast episode is done. Just two more before we go live with the first three. Our co-hosts and our latest guest Christie (far right).
Stay tuned for our launch next month!