More encouraging signs

A newspaper’s unique coverage of an ongoing issue between a family and the Boy Scouts caught my eye. They reported on public support the family is receiving for their transgender child.

I won’t go into the issue. It’s the Boy Scouts, so you can probably guess how that ossified organization responded to a transgender boy in the Scouts.

Instead let’s focus on the real news here: the tide has turned. People are now educated and on the side of transgender people everywhere. Even within the Scouts members are calling for changes allowing the boy to remain a member. What excellent evidence.

Increasing public support for transpeople should be no surprise. As more transgender people and their allies focus their stories, creating their realities in the process, of course reality is going to change to match those stories.  The question is, are you keeping up with the changes so your life gets better too?

Some of you are focusing too much on negative events. Those events aren’t serving you. Unless you like that your life sucks of course. For those people – you know who you are – life will keep changing, but it will keep changing to “what is” – the stories you keep telling yourself about what is instead of what you want that “is-ness” to be.

Meanwhile others’ lives just keep getting better. Like this young man and his family.

You can choose where to focus. You can choose seeing stories in your reality that make you feel good. The more you do that, the more you’ll find.

And when that happens, life just gets better and better.

“How?” sucks



Tomorrow night on Facebook Live we’ll explore how to make everything you want to be in your life be in your life and why focusing intellectually on “how” makes getting those things a sucky experience. You can be in love, accepted for who you are and happy. That’s what we’re talking about on The Transamorous Network’s Facebook Live show “IN YOUR FACE” Monday night, Jan. 9 at 7:30 pm PST. We’ll see you there.

How blacks are helping transgender people

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Times are changing on TV. GLAAD recently announced that more black and transgender roles are appearing on TV than ever before. Yet more evidence that reality is changing to reflect more favorably on the trans community. We celebrate the news with this fun, short, episode.

Real transwomen don’t top

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Bullshit.

Some holier than thou transwomen out there claim a “real transwoman” would never top because “real transwomen” (who, presumably are WOMEN, and by that definition would hate their penis) abhor the idea of “that” between their legs. Of course, there are transwomen like that in the world. There’s great diversity on Earth. You can find evidence of ANY STORY. That’s why there are PLENTY of transwomen who LOVE to top! Just because they do doesn’t make them a REAL WOMAN.

Did you know cis-women have LOVED topping men for as long as there have been sex toys? The sex industry makes millions of dollars from men who loved to be fucked by women and women who thoroughly enjoy fucking them. Are these women not women just because the strap on a fake penis and go to town on a guy’s ass?

Of course not.

I find it COMPLETELY BIZARRE that a transwoman, having gone through the struggle of finding acceptance for who they really are, would then look down her nose at another transwoman who is just trying to be herself (and express that self-hood by topping her man). In a bizzaro-version of reality, transwomen adopt a hetero-normative meme and then use it to shame other transwomen (and men who want such transwomen) who have the story that “topping is fun, normal, sexually satisfying and part of who I am.”

Stories are powerful things. If you’re a transwoman who believes ALL transwomen must be bottoms, that’s great. It’s your story. It relates to YOUR reality. Don’t use your story to condemn other people – men and women – who are wanting to create THEIR reality with THEIR stories.

Men: You want what you want and what you want is good. You want a transgender woman who will enjoy topping you, but feel bad, shame, worry or fear about it? Schedule a FREE 1:1 session with Perry and talk about it!