The transgender community can do the rest of humanity (and itself) a favor by dropping this one bogus trope.
I know the secret to meeting the trans woman of my dreams is as plan as my moving lips.
Nothing ever goes wrong in relationship. It's always the interpretation which creates "wrong". Every relationship goes right. The question: can you see the rightness?
Meeting your perfect match is easy. Once you figure out your old stories keeping you where you're at, then tell new ones leading to what you want.
There's more good stuff happening than I can possibly be aware of. But my awareness is getting bigger. That expansion is exhilarating.