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About The Transamorous Network:

Live your life in joy

The Transamorous Network exists to allow cis-men who find themselves romantically and sexually attracted to transgender people to find their freedom and joy. Your desires and interests are natural and normal. And they’re special, because you are rare. The Transamorous Network guarantees the more you turn towards your desire, own it and live it out loud, the more you will find everything else you are looking for. You are here to live a purpose. Part of the purpose is to express honest, authentic romantic love to transwomen and in that expression you take humanity to the next level. No joke.

Transwomen: you’re unique in the historical context of humankind. Your existence is pulling humanity into a new and thrilling future. You’re meant have a joyful life. We offer opportunities for you to recover the joy that is naturally yours. When you do that, your search for love, belonging and everything else you’re looking for is over. You will have found all that and more.

Families: transpeople chose you for specific life experiences. Each of you agreed to having this experience before you got here. Like your transfamilymembers, you came joyfully. We offer content for you that will show you the way to that joy, but you have to make the effort. If you do, your joy will evaporate all your negative feelings about your family member’s trans status, returning love to your entire family.

This Network is formally organized to showcase my perspective on transrelationships with a focus primarily on relationships between cis-gender men and transgender women, and the transamorous male. There are many perspectives out there. Some may resonate with this one, which is why I am offering it. As you will see over time, the content here will not agree with a lot about what you read about the transcommunity, transgender people and the men who romantically love them. It will also not agree with many interpretations of traditional religious organizations.

The Network will also include information transwomen may find intriguing. Transwomen: You may not agree with the content. Thank goodness for diversity of opinion! But for those people for whom this information resonates: this Network is for you.

There’s a reason for this approach of course. I designed The Transamorous Network to reconnect transpeople with two forms of love they often lack: Romantic love from another and familial love from their family of origin. In rebuilding these two legs, the third “love leg” – love of self – becomes more accessible. It is the Network’s position (and mine as well) that this third love-leg (self-love) is really all that’s needed for a person to thrive. Get that and everything else naturally falls in place. My life is a living example.

Many of us (all of us?) come into the world loving ourselves (self-love is our natural state). Along the way though, we lose that focus. When that happens, our reality gets all out of whack. Then we begin seeking validation (love) in the external world, through others opinion of us, trying to please others, overemphasizing their love for us over our love for ourselves, we make a mess of our lives.  Find love where it is most enduring – in our selves – and our lives return to the blessed state they were in the beginning.

A lot more to say about that.

Obviously, the Network is new. There’s a lot designed and planned. I invite you to enjoy the unfolding. In the meantime, please read our terms and conditions so you know what you’re doing while you visit.

Perry 2016 webAbout me:

My name is Perry Gruber. But it’s just a name. I could use many labels to describe me. That would make it easier for you, dear reader, to put me in a box. I don’t mind being in your boxes, but I’m done helping you put me there. So, as a subtle service to you, and in honor of me, I’m going to put “me” differently.

I reflect who you are being. I stand here (although I’m sitting now) in your corner because I love All That Is. You are a part of that. And so I love you. While here, on this beautiful planet, I’ve chosen to make the world a better place. I am doing that by creating a new global reality for humankind, by walking my talk through my own personal practice of self-exploration, and by focusing my energy – my gifts – to create content for the people for whom I created this Network.

Yes, transamory is something I bring into the world. But my transamory doesn’t define me as your transamory or your trans status, or your family’s acceptance or non-acceptance doesn’t define you. I’m going to explore, then share thoughts which run through me about the subject of this Network. I know these thoughts and ideas will touch many. It may enrage a few. It’s all good. That’s part of the process of creating the beautiful world our hearts know is possible.

As with all strong relationships, you’ll get to know more about me over time. I like the idea of having a LTR with you :-). But if you can’t wait, there is a lot of information about me on the Internet. Feel free to do your homework. Your boxes are yours to do with what you wish.

Be sure to check out the terms and conditions of this site.